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  • In my experience, people often make choices based on not cool things. Sometimes it depends on the personalities of people involved and they go with who is in a bigger position of power. It can also depend on the information that they provided or have access to. For instance, if you broke up with someone who is vengeful or dishonest, they might spread a lot of lies about you. They can be very sneaky and plant the seeds of suspicion. Unfortunately, I’ve also learned that some people will just believe anything without actual evidence or even logic.

    For example, one person I split up with ran a forum about 15 years ago. She immediately banned me from the forum, and then was saying a bunch of really exaggerated or just plain false things about me in a private area of the forum to a couple dozen people we had both known for years. I was blocked from there, so I didn’t even know what she was saying and I couldn’t defend myself, and these people believed all these crazy things about me. It’s nuts to have people spreading really defamatory stories about you and you don’t even know what they are and have no chance to defend yourself or refute them.

    More recently I’ve seen stuff like someone had a live stream, and we had a handful of friends and acquaintances who would watch it. After we split up, people doing pretty weird and annoying trolling on there. She just kept saying without any evidence that it was obviously me and I’m so crazy, so nuts, so lonely, so drunk and so on. And then if I go on and I’m like what what the hell? I’m not doing this, I just get blocked and ridiculed.

    So in either situation, some people around still talked to me and stayed friends, they said things like “well, we didn’t even know of what she was saying was true”, but it definitely raised a lot of serious distrust and suspicions that harmed friendships. Total smear campaign. However, people stuck with them more than me because I was cut out of contact, and they had more advatanages hanging out with that person than me - stay on the forum, stay on the stream.

    So in general, it seems to me like people go to one side or the other. It’s hard to be friends with people who totally hate each other. You have to make sure you don’t mention one to the other. And also, it leads to resentment. Like if there’s this person who totally screwed me over, it irritates me that someone would still be friends with them after seeing what an awful person they can be and I feel like if they’re still friends with them, they’re not standing up for me. I don’t like people trying to dictate who I’m friends with myself, but still I think OK, so my ex lied to me cheated on me stole from me, and is still trying to harm me, and they’re just like oh, that’s cool.




  • It happened to me one time, but she and her family were not really typical wealthy people. She was making 80 K a year, and her mother has something like 35 million, but her mother thought it was a huge victory to find eggs on clearance for $.80 instead of $1.50. So they didn’t really see themselves as rich, except for things like knowing if someone messed with them, they could sue them into oblivion.

    My girlfriend was set to inherit 10 million and had plenty of money. I got tired of her acting like she was totally stressed out about $400 when that sort of money was never going to make any difference to her, especially since her career trajectory was likely to result in her making about 200 K within the next few years. I was making about 30,000 as an artist after coming back from a health problem where I was making zero, and I was less stressed about money than she was. So, we could’ve had a relationship where I enjoyed some sort of unusual luxuries that I could never afford myself, but they were so frugal that we didn’t. And being frugal had absolutely nothing to do with how they got their money. I think it was just a hold over from before her mom struck it lucky, from back when they were poor. But anyway, to her credit, my girlfriend never acted like they were better than me or like I was poor or as if I was with her because she was wealthy.










  • zeppo@lemmy.worldtoComic Strips@lemmy.worldvestibulectomy
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    2 months ago

    I’m not super on board personally because I have absolutely absymal experience being ignored and mistreated by the medical field, as a cis male. On one hand, that makes me agree, it sucks to be eye-rolled at or dismissed. On the other hand, it makes me feel it’s not all about sexism.


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    2 months ago

    A pilonidal cyst is something that people get from spending a prolonged time in a sitting position while rarely laying down straight or standing all the way. It became known during American wars of teh 20th century when service members (generally men at the time) spent hours or days sitting upright in jeeps. However, it is not in any way specific to men. Pores at the bending point, right at the base of the spine/top if the butt stay elongated, and can get clogged. Then there is basically open space behind there where an abscess can build from what is pretty much just a clogged pore. For some reason this is being portrayed as a sexist thing.





  • That isn’t how socialism works. Socialism means that the workers control the means of production. It typically also means that necessary services such as healthcare are not run for corporate profit. Such government also typically give assistance to people who need it, rather than acting as if human life is worthless if it isn’t making capitalist profits for the owner class. In your case, if you were refusing to get education, employment, and contribute to society for whatever reason, that could be seen as some sort of psychological issue and most likely you would receive counseling. If you’re unable to work due to that, you may have assisted housing and a small stipend. But do you get like, a car? Luxury food? Vacations? No, because there is not a situation under socialism where “everything is free”. The bare necessities of life are supplied by the government, because that is, for one, smarter and more efficient than the American system where we do things like let preventable health conditions fester for years while people suffer and become untreatable rather than just giving them preventative care in the first place, which would save the entire society tons of money and increase overall productivity.