I used to see him all over the place and now nothing. I checked his post history and it’s been 24 days since he last posted anything.

I don’t know the guy or have any personal stake, but seeing someone everywhere just suddenly disappear is odd.

  • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de
    6·
    6 hours ago

    That’s a good point I used to see him all the time and chatted with him some.

    Last I spoke, in public comments in here, he had completed his move to the UK (where I live too) so perhaps he’s just been busy with all the changes.

    Edit: Good on you for asking.

  • rodneylives@lemmy.world
    174·
    22 hours ago

    I know FlyingSquid from another community, and sent them a private message just a few days ago saying hello. (I didn’t know they had been missing at the time.) FS is awesome, and I really hope they’re okay.

    • Squizzy@lemmy.world
      41·
      6 hours ago

      He is power tripping mod, blocked me because he disagreed with me. Had to get another mod to address it.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      6·
      22 hours ago

      Well, I’d you truly do know them - let them know it was noticed and some of us do hope they are ok. A break or a full breakup is totally justified. I just don’t want to see people hurt or hurting.

    • Lemminary@lemmy.world
      4·
      21 hours ago

      My interactions with him weren’t awesome but he has his heart in the right place and that’s all that matters to me.

  • Skua@kbin.earth
    1051·
    2 days ago

    I will absolutely not share specifics of this since it would be doxxing him, but I found one of his other social media accounts and it had a post from a week ago that seemed ordinary enough. Whatever got him to stop posting here, it wasn’t something so drastic as to prevent him from engaging with his interests

    (Also Squid, if you see this, I am happy to explain how I found you over DMs if it concerns you)

    • FaceDeer@fedia.io
      593·
      2 days ago

      Glad to hear that he’s apparently doing okay.

      But I must say, I think it’s probably for the best that he dialed down his Fediverse engagement. Both for his own sake (nobody should spend that much time on social media) and for the Fediverse as a whole - he seemed to be everywhere that I went and it made the place feel small and monocultural.

      I’ve always liked the way on Reddit I barely ever recognized anyone’s name. I prefer engaging with the conversation, not with the people.

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
        753·
        2 days ago

        Being real, part of what’s been great about lemmy is connection with people, instead of empty bullshit jokes and snark and the usual smugness that comes from not knowing the people.

        There’s a been dozens of times I’ve seen people here see someone acting unusual, and reaching out to see what’s going on, offering sympathy and ending with mutual respect instead of slap fights.

        Fuck the way reddit worked. It didn’t work, but everyone thought it was the only way to have threaded forums, that you had to accept everyone being anonymous dicks as the price of discourse and content.

        But it isn’t, it really isn’t the only way. And lemmy, for all its faults, still has that sense of actual community where you can go to a new C/ and run across lemmy friends. Some of them may even turn into friends in other ways.

        The old squid was indeed everywhere, and he made plenty of mistakes along the way, but damned if he didn’t do his part to make lemmy feel like a place for people first, even when the way he went about that was one of his mistakes.

        I don’t want to float through the kind of cesspits reddit could have, feeding back into toxicity via anonymity and disconnection.

        • FaceDeer@fedia.io
          14·
          2 days ago

          Well, that’s fine if you prefer it that way. I prefer relative anonymity and subject-focused discussion myself. It’s a preference, not an objective “I’m right and you’re wrong” sort of thing.

          • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
            6·
            2 days ago

            Word. No right or wrong :)

            Just don’t know that you’ll find lemmy in general that subject focused. There’s some communities that stay pretty tight, but it tends more towards mini chats rather than more structured comment chains.

        • Flax@feddit.ukEnglish
          14·
          2 days ago

          I like that aspect of lemmy as well. I quite commonly see familiar names.

      • PlexSheep@infosec.pub
        15·
        2 days ago

        I really like just occasionally recognizing someone. Also, user labels are awesome. I write about funny jokes and mad nuts in those.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      15·
      1 day ago

      I’m glad he’s off if that’s truly him then. Some of the other posts here were worrying. Best of luck to him and his family.

  • apfelwoiSchoppen@lemmy.world
    24·
    2 days ago

    I saw recently (within the last three weeks or so) that they were blocked from posting on the World News or News communities in their mod log. Can’t remember which now because an entire decade has happened between now and then.

    Hope they are OK.

  • ClanOfTheOcho@lemmy.world
    411·
    2 days ago

    Last I saw, he moved back to the UK and was struggling to find a job. The sudden, unexpected lack of communication is certainly concerning.

    • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de
      2·
      6 hours ago

      I really do hope we hear from him. I find it nice that he has communicated with so many of us in this thread and I hope he learns that people are a little concerned.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      24·
      2 days ago

      I knew about the UK move, but had no idea about the job. I agree that the sudden cutoff is strange indeed.

      • protist@mander.xyzEnglish
        35·
        2 days ago

        He shared a lot about his life on here and I worry he set himself up for failure moving to the UK. Based on what he’s said, he had a condition where he no longer wanted to eat, and then stopped working for a long time because of that. He seemed to expect that finding a job was going to be easy moving to a new country, but that’s not typically the case, especially after having not worked in years.

        After moving, he talked a lot about finding a job, which had me wondering what changed. While he wasn’t working, he was spending 12+ hours on Lemmy every day, with like well over a hundred posts/comments per day, and constantly talking about not being able to work. Going from that mindset to desperately trying to find a job in a foreign country seems like a mindfuck.

  • tiredofsametab@fedia.io
    15·
    2 days ago

    There was a post in powertrippingbastards the other day that referenced him, though I don’t recall which. Some person mentioned an argument with them on discord/matrix and they chose to step away.

  • HubertManne@piefed.socialEnglish
    13·
    2 days ago

    I thought at first it was 24 hours and I was like woa man. Sometimes folks have to take a break. But 24 days is long.