I recently meet someone and was going to ask them to describe themselves in a paragraph. I realized I wasn’t able to do it myself. I also wasn’t sure how they would react. I thought I would ask here first and see how you folks react.

I’ll define paragraph as three to four sentences.

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      11·
      11 days ago

      Hmmm, fair… it could come across as such. Hence not actually asking it. Your comment would make me lean toward not asking at all.

      Appreciate the perspective.

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      2·
      11 days ago

      As stated fair point. Again, coming to the collective to gather data helps us be better people. Didn’t actually ask, and feedback suggests don’t do it… as such I won’t.

      Thanks for responding, appreciated!!

      • 𝕽𝖚𝖆𝖎𝖉𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖌𝖍@midwest.social
        3·
        10 days ago

        It’s an interesting idea. I think it’s just the phrasing. You’re giving someone, socially and conversationally, an instruction. That’s bound to illicit a knee jerk “you’re not the boss of me!” reaction, mentally if not verbally.

        • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
          1·
          10 days ago

          I can absolutely see that as a way this question could be interpreted. It felt like a “bright idea” at the time but, not so much now. My plan is to just keep letting things play out as they have been.

  • Secret Music@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    11 days ago

    Daydreamer that dreamt themself out of a functional life. Not just a late bloomer but still a sprout. A hopeful idealistic child in the body of a jaded misanthropic adult. I dance to a tune playing in my earphones where only I can hear it most of the time, unless someone is close enough.

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      2·
      11 days ago

      Your third sentence sounds like something I would say. Thank you so much for sharing.

      I hope others get a chance to hear your tune and maybe help you not be such a misanthrope. But, continue being a daydreamer

  • 𞋴𝛂𝛋𝛆@lemmy.worldEnglish
    4·
    12 days ago

    I’m a jack of all trades master of none and Maker. I’m not afraid of being alone both physically and metaphorically. I care about other people far more than most realize, but on my terms like how I often see potential beyond what others see in themselves. My humor, curiosity, abstractions, and occasional cynicism are often misunderstood but have nuance in most cases.

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      2·
      11 days ago

      Your response is great and appreciated. I think when this question originally came to me, I was thinking of this type of answer.

      I think others have provided a good point for the question itself and I probably won’t ask it. You taking the time to respond was helpful!!

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      2·
      11 days ago

      Not sure I follow. Would you be willing to expand on this?

      I also apologize. I met someone IRL and this question came to mind. I have not asked for / seen any social media profiles.

      However you are correct, they could have something posted that “sums them up”. I’m just not aware. We just recently met.

      Appreciate the response!!

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      2·
      11 days ago

      Fair… another reason I was asking the collective. Was curious how many may say it was unpossible to do in a few sentences.

      (It’s the Simpsons, don’t harass me for spelling 😁)

  • Yermaw@lemm.ee
    3·
    11 days ago

    I’d just copy/paste the lyrics from “what’s my age again?” By Blink 182.

    Pretty much sums it up.

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      1·
      10 days ago

      That’s a fair response. A bit extreme IMO but everyone has a different perspective on this.

      For context, it would have been asked during a phone call not a message. However, they could have hung up and never said anything to me again.

      The final consensus, for me, is this question should be left out of the conversation.

      I do appreciate you taking the time to provide your perspective, thanks!!

  • folaht@lemmy.ml
    2·
    10 days ago

    You have the twelve personalities.
    Dominant, submissive, pedantic, curious, mean, innocent, humorous, trusting, romantic, nurturer, charming and horny.
    Everyone is all of them bar the aro-ace people who lack the latter four.
    I am 3 6 12 8 7 4 11 1 2 10 5 in that order.
    Results of me in real life may vary due to having mild to moderate mental illnesses.
    To make your own list, remind yourself that what you look for in a life partner is likely what you can score yourself high on on the complement side, so 1 likes 2 and vice versa 3&4, 5&6 etc…
    Maybe I should put 11 much higher on this list.

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      1·
      10 days ago

      Interesting, this feels rather scientific in the thought process. Or, someone who digs psychology at least.

      I think my initial thought for the question was more light hearted. A few things to describe yourself.

      Also, not sure this would be headed toward life partner status. Still, you bring up an interesting thought.

      I will give this some consideration and make my own list. May still prove valuable as I explore things with this person.

      Appreciate you making me think but, not too hard haha!

      • folaht@lemmy.ml
        2·
        9 days ago

        This is someone who used AI girlfriend where you have those twelve options in pure form and started to see patterns for self-analyses, partner analyses and DnD character play.

        • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
          1·
          9 days ago

          Interesting in and of itself, the use of AI for this simple question. But, I should assume AI will always be a factor in any discussions on the internet.