Thanks for sharing this. Patriarchy damages men, they’re expected to hide their feelings, “man up” and crush emotions inside. It really hurts men and it’s totally wrong
FYI “patriarchy” is a gendered term which comes from the Latin, originally meaning “church government by patriarchs” (1560s) and later evolved to mean “society or government by elder males” (1630s). Historically, it referred to autocratic rule by men. More recently it has been expanded in feminist theory which broadly ascribes a set of toxic behaviours to men as a group. The problem with this word is that men don’t have a patent on toxic behaviour. It’s often not men telling other men not to cry and to man up, for example. It’s often the women in our lives, and especially our romantic partners. Raising “patriarchy” in this discussion is tantamount to blaming men for the issues they experience, and this is not helpful to anyone. No more than suggesting rape victims are also victims of the “matriarchy.” If you understand how offensive that might seem to you, you might understand how offensive your comment can be to men.
managed to make a comment about the damaging aspects of male dominated society into hating women, congrats.
I think the ever growing machismo bullshit in America has subconsciously made me a different (better) person out of spite. I grew my hair super long again, and embrace liking kawaii and other cute and chill cultures, despite being a straight cis white male that wears mostly black and listens to metal.
Same, but with fascists/far-right wingers and their fashion. I’m shaving my head and dressing punkier because I hate this old-money vibe so many are trying to get. Sorry, no, rebellious leftists (and not billionaires) are my inspiration.
Wait what’s kawaii? Besides, like, the place
Is it ever growing? It seems very much that, on net, it is decreasing.
I scrolled past this at first, then went back and man, it brought a smile to my face. I’m going through a stressful time in school (since the education system is ass, especially for neurodivergent students) and this gave me a bunch of hope.
And I gotta say, lots of our feeds are packed with depressing news stories and Lemmy infighting, but where’s the feel good content? I’ve only seen a few of them so far.
Negative feelings do for more engagement. Not really anyones fault but our brains.
Yeah, is basically why I don’t watch tv news anymore, it’s always negative stuff that I really didn’t need to know.
If you still want to keep up with the news, get an actual paper subscription to something like The Atlantic or The Economist. You still get the overarching themes of the day, but with more nuance and a larger view. It is also more limited - you get that news, but you aren’t doom scrolling. Plus less time staring at a screen. Plus you can put them on your coffee table and look like a hoity toity intellectual when you have company over.
A good alternative to Lemmy is going outside and talking to people. And yet, here we are.
Yay, thank you!
Appreciating some male positivity
Im all these things except the therapy one
Dude here. The therapy one can really help, especially when you find the therapist who’s right for you. It doesn’t fix everything of course but it can set you down a road where your situation starts improving. It took me a long long time to try it but I’m so glad I’ve got one now.
Go for it. Not gonna lie to you. It’s scary and it’s hard but, even if you don’t deal with all the shit, just having someone to talk to who can give actually useful advice helps a lot.
Thank you. 👍
I have been all of these things at some point in the last 15 years.
Sending out love to all my brothers. Hang in there, things will get better. Even if they get waaaaaaay worse beforehand, which usually happens when you expect it the least.
Just try to stay strong, keep on going and don’t you dare go hollow.
2 out of 6 ain’t bad
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💙💙💙
Those are symbols of the AfD, you’re cancelled
(Actually tho)
I daily sent my partner a message like that. He has a 5/6 bleu hart score btw.
6/6. Nice knowing there’s a men’s day, no a whole month lol.
It is a whole month. The bottom of the image says month. It’s celebrated June/this month.
This has literally been my entire life since before 2nd grade. Yay for medication and therapy.
Have you been banned from blahaj lemmy yet?
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mods there have historically gone overboard with bans. One person said “dude is a gender neutral word” in a completely different instance and blahaj mods banned them cuz “transphobic” lmfao
Check out the whole track record on !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com
they even had to block this topic because of how frequent it is.
So it’s not out of the question they see this and think one is appropriating pride month
They didn’t say “dude is a gender neutral word” they said “anyone who doesn’t think dude is a gender neutral word needs to get over it”.
Dude is gender neutral in the same way that chicos is gender neutral.
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Haven’t checked it yet and tbh don’t even want to cuz if you would’ve seen the kind of comments on the same thing i posted on lemmyshitpost(i know, i’m still new to lemmy) even you wouldn’t dare to post stuff like that again
And god the number of people that were just offended just by my username🤦
