Raised Catholic too, huh?
When we liberate ourselves from wage slavery
When the natrual progress of mankind stops being artificially blocked by Capitalism.
Its not the 8% annual money supply growth that is skyrocketing home values via the cantillon effect and devaluing your salary, its “capitalism”.
That’s a cool new buzzword to accept slavery
brilliant logic, let me try:
it’s not the commercial planes that crashed into the WTC on 9/11, it’s “Al Qaeda”.
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I work in mental health and have found that in general, people hate this concept. People can have difficulty tolerating the idea that they have any control over their internal experience, because the implication is that they are at least partially responsible for their negative thoughts and emotions. A lot of people will cling like crazy to blaming external factors for their condition in order to protect their ego (though not a conscious process).
The reality is the only person who has control over your internal experience is you, and research shows time and again that people’s level of contentment is only partially correlated to factors like income and quality of life, because everyone gets to decide for themselves how to think and feel if they decide to.
Yes yes it’s your fault your brain chemistry is imbalanced that’ll be $500 pls
Thank you for providing evidence to support my point
I’m sorry I didn’t do my homework of copying The Fountainhead ten times please don’t yell at me anymore Dr. Medicàl Mōdel 😔
You’re really good at cop outs
You could be this awesome too if you’d pulled yourself up by your bootstraps and just been less sad.
It’s as simple as listening to literally any psychologist, free purveyors of a completely solved science!
I’m struggling to understand your point. You’re 1) accusing me of perpetuating “the medical model,” and 2) disagreeing with me that mindfulness meditation (literally a free thing you can do alone in your room) can help people take more control of their internal state? The implication here is you think more people should just be on antidepressant meds for the rest of their lives, I guess?
If your takeaway from everything I’ve said about mindfulness meditation helping people take some control of their thoughts and feelings is that I’m telling people to “just be less sad,” you just aren’t listening.
If it’s not for the ego then it’s simply not having the cognitive framework. I think it’s more common just to not know how to make a choice or that your choices are valid. At least, that would look like the same avoidant behavior from the outside.
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you need to BUY STUFF in order to be happy, otherwise you’re doomed to misery 100% forever.
Most people need to work their 2nd or 3rd job to make rent and pay the bills. Which leaves little room for internal exploration, self actualization, or connection to a wider community.
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we’re conditioned to hate this concept by capitalism. “you cannot just be happy don’t be ridiculous. you need to BUY STUFF in order to be happy
Does this stuff include psychotherapy and medication?
People can have difficulty tolerating the idea that they have any control over their internal experience
This shit is a lazy response to the reality of a lot of people’s actual experiences and, truthfully, may as well be a postmodern signpost for the allegory of the cave.
I work in homeless services now and help meet people’s very basic needs and try to get them housed. I don’t need you to lecture me about people’s actual experiences, I’ve seen the worst.
Recognizing that anyone can learn to exert more control over their own internal experience does nothing to delegitimize anyone’s life experience. Not only that, I believe it empowers people.
What’s funny is in my anecdotal experience, the group most resistant to the concept of mindfulness are people of privilege
try meditation. contrary to what we’re taught from birth, you CAN decide for yourself how you feel.
doing worry, it’ll happen, it’s a big milestone usually celebrated with friends and family, they can it the funeral
Early 40’s and it gets worse every year… I hate hearing “life gets better as you get older”. I feel like my 30’s were mostly ok, but that sense of everything is wrong only grows each year that goes by. I miss my 20’s and I know I’ll never have as good of a time as I did then. My only hope is that if I make it to retirement, maybe then I can relax a little before I die? I forget what it’s like to not have constant worries.
Don’t worry, now people in their 20s are feeling the same way. So at least you’re not alone.
Shit’s fucked
For some it comes with age, as they gradually give less and less of a shit. Around 40, maybe? Might stem from a mindset of: “You’ve already thrown me all the curveballs you can, world. You can’t hurt me anymore.”
Narrator: “Life could, in fact, throw many more curveballs.”
Hahahahaha omg so true.
All I hear is a song from My Fair Lady: “Just You Wait, Henry Higgens, Just You Wait”
Most certainly - only that I don’t worry as much about the curveballs coming. 😉
As someone who’s reached 45… definitely not. I have way more anxiety, am more easily stressed, and constantly have imposter syndrome and worries I did not have when I was in my 20’s and 30’s. I’m used to some of it, but life now throws me different curveballs. 30’s were probably my best decade thus far concerning the OPs statement.
My 30s were actually my worst, I think (with the exception of my childhood). When I turned 40, it was almost like flipping a switch, but it also coincided with my son being born a year and a half before that. Of course there are new things to worry about, but it’s different, somehow. Things are much better now. ☺️
It’s odd for me in that my 20’s and 30’s were full of changes (relationships, moves, kids, job, etc) and by all accounts should have been the more stressful, tumultuous time, but I definitely just cruised right through feeling like I had it together and bouncing from challenge to challenge.
Now that I’m in my 40’s, I’ve sorted out the big things, I’ve stabilized my life and I’ve got more experience and wisdom… but I’m simultaneously aware of more things I know I can’t solve and that’s much harder to deal with mentally.
Exactly the same for me at 47. It’s like you described my own personal experience.
About a week or so after you die.
unless the rumors are true
So hell is just all your dead relatives yelling at you for shit you did throughout your life?
what else would you call that
I don’t think Millennials will ever reach the same level of financial security that boomers had. It feels like I’m always treading water, only barely able to get by. I never have money to go on vacation, eat out, or buy a car. Everything is so expensive that I’m lucky if I don’t go deeper into debt by the end of the month.
I wanna become an alcoholic but I can’t afford that with my ~$100k salary.
It only happens when you become insanely wealthy through no actual fault of your own yet think you are a self made billionaire.
This basically explains Elon Musk.
After you go to therapy
Ah! Now I know this one, it usually happens a few months after you shuffle off the mortal coil. Nothing to worry about, it’s a problem that solves itself!
Other than that, I’m afraid you’re stuck with it - a bit like marriage “till death do us part”.
I find it easy to blame everyone else for the state of the world. So in my book, everyone else is in trouble.
Lol, is the asker ADHD?
I’ve got the opposite problem: that my parents don’t affect my life in the slightest anymore, and they generally don’t reach out, and go super long periods of no contact. My mom hasn’t even set foot in my house, ever. My dad will try to make plans and then never ever follow through cause he’d rather work twelve-hour shifts in a factory at the age of 73. A little voice in the back of my head reminds me I’ll never be grounded again, but… it’s sad about that? My home is messier than I’d like but cleaner than theirs.
I’m six weeks shy of 40. I’m also a trans woman, and I think that’s a contributing factor too.
