I find it incredibly stupid when people blame the forests when they have a problem with a specific tree. And that’s just the most sympathetic take on why he posted this in the first place.
No sympathy for this guy at all.
I find it incredibly stupid when people blame the forests when they have a problem with a specific tree.
That’s why I have a problem with the phrase “improving yourself” because it’s such a broad statement and nonspecific. A guy could be a gym buff but still struggle to date because he’s too shy, overly anxious etc. Women, or any gender, like a confident person who could take care of him/herself. And the problem, of course is, no one will tell the guy what the problem is because it will come off as rude. A pertinent issue is that men tend to be solitary and form less bond with others than women. Women give each other feedback, while for men, there isn’t anyone to receive feedback from. Many men instead end up losing their way to snake oil salesmen.
I saw post on social media with female OP wondering why some men are still single. A lot of female commenters say many men are too anxious and over thinking. It reminds me of my friend who is good looking, but quite insecure. Looks don’t matter much to women and they prefer personality. Many insecure, single guys scoff when I say this, but look around and there are less physically attractive guys dating ridiculously good looking women. It is nuanced and looks matter to an extent, but it’s not a top priority to less shallow women. Women aren’t some mystical and mysterious goddesses who are untouchable.
Women do have a point that men would do anything, including harmful stuff, than go to therapy. I’m glad that another friend of mine seems to be holding on his current relationship long, after I advised him to go to therapy.
We may never know @jaicilgin’s name
I’m pretty sure it’s
jaicilginYou can swear on the internet.
And men don’t? I am willing to bet that the most wars in history could be traced to men who couldn’t cope with their emotions in a healthy way.
Men don’t have emotions remember? Stoicism and what not.
*a few. I like to believe wars were fought more over resource domineering than ideology or emotion
Otherwise jesus are we lost as a species
Yeah. Wars weren’t fought because a king had a temper tantrum. Wars were mostly fought to control land.
This is mistaking cause and effect. Fighting over land results in a lot of strong emotions. Emotions aren’t the cause of fighting over land.
I mean the War of the Roses was fought initially for resources/control, but began to become more about settling bitter feuds than economic gain. But I see these as exceptions
It is, though, compromise and negotiation would be the healthy way to deal with these things, fighting over them is a failure of emotional control, it’s required by at least one side of those kinds of conflicts. And many a war was indeed fought due to kings having temper tantrums.
If your army can easily crush the enemy and they refuse to give you the resources you want, it’s not an emotional decision to go to war to get it. It might be an immoral one, but so is demanding the resources in the first place.
You really see that as the emotionally healthy way to deal with these kinds of situations? Building an army and crushing all who cannot stand against you so that you can take what they have and force your control over them?
Telling. Very telling.
Immoral = emotionally unhealthy.
It’s very telling that you think emotion has anything to do with it.
A better question is: what caused the dispute in the first place? Who the true aggressor?
You’re letting us know a lot about yourself there.
War is men not coping with their emotions in a healthy way. There is more than that to it, sure, but that is the central pillar at the core of every war throughout documented history.
In all seriousness, as a guy, I am genuinely gobsmacked at how many men feel entitled to sex and blame their insecurities and lack of dating skills on women. Looking back, I’m glad that I came from a culture where it’s more egalitarian. The schools I went to taught us that feminism is about equality between men and women. It’s not about one gender being superior to the other. When I was younger, my mom repeated to me couple of times not to get upset if a woman rejects me, to the point I told her she keeps saying what I already know before.
Later, as I got older, I realised that feminism and gender equality is taught differently in different places, or barely taught at all. Many people mistake feminism as female superiority. Some families don’t teach treating the opposite gender with respect. Even here in Europe, despite the progress since forever, I find Europeans still have more rigid gender expectations than in Southeast Asia.
Sometimes, being born into what family and the environment you grow up in is a matter of luck and shape who you are. Despite my parents’ flaws, I’m lucky I was born to educated parents and our culture is more or less egalitarian despite some hiccups.
Sometimes it’s a willful misunderstanding of feminism.
A strawman they’ve built in their heads from the words of their tv news preachers enables them to continue to hate women.
Listening to actual feminists and taking a minute to understand how it benefits everyone is hard and means they might have to stop feeding their delicious hate.
Where do you come from, if you don’t mind me asking. Because your birthplace sounds AWESOME
I don’t want to say specifically where I’m from, but I am originally from South East Asia. A common theory for the relative gender equality is because of the sea-faring, nomadic culture of Austronesians, who populated South East Asia and later the Pacific. Apparently, because of the lifestyle and constant movement, the workload is distributed between men and women, which promotes egalitarianism. Similar thing is observed on Native Americans and hunter gatherer cultures. I don’t know how solid the theory is but I will have to read more on it.
Even with South East Asia now being a “settled” society, and Abrahamic religions introducing some patriarchal ideas, the egalitarian value still largely remains as far as I can tell. There is remarkably more women in management roles in South East Asia compared to other countries. Many Westerners even noted how there are many female security guards in my home country.
Being generic here, but the concept of Hijra is not controversial or unaccepted across SE asia, correct? Or at least to the best of my knowledge (Cambodia and Burma).
I tend to pose just having such uncontested language goes a long way for gender roles (and conformance) not being such a puritanical binary like it is in the American anglosphere.
The hijra are on South Asia or the Indian subcontinent. I don’t know exactly what their social status is but it might differ from one part of South Asia to another.
I don’t know much about Burma and Cambodia so I can’t comment. Barring Malaysia and Indonesia, since they are Muslim-majority countries, the lgbt community in Philippines and Thailand is widespread and less stigmatised. We all know how accepting Thailand is of lgbt, and in Philippines many gays and lesbians are tolerated, but not accepted due to Catholic reasons for still refusing same sex marriage. However, before the Spanish colonisation of Philippines, gay men or bakla were conferred a special status as clerics in religious occasions, similar to hijra in South Asia and third spirit among Native Americans. Despite the Christian influence, the tolerance of lgbt in Philippines is still intact.
I tend to pose just having such uncontested language goes a long way for gender roles (and conformance) not being such a puritanical binary like it is in the American anglosphere.
Austronesian languages are not gendered. There is no he or she. Probably the closest translation of singular pronouns to English from Austronesian languages is “they”, which may sound awkward to gendered language speakers.
I’ve literally seen men riot over a ball game.
My kids sometimes like to watch compilations of “fail” videos. The sheer number of clips involving adult-age males either punching or ripping their televisions off the wall as a result of a sports (or video game) outcome amazes me (but probably shouldn’t). I always tell me kids (especially my daughter) that if they ever see someone do this, they need to leave immediately and not have any kind of interactions with this person. If they’re willing to beat the hell out of a television, they’ll do the same to you.
I’ve launched a few controllers in my day. But that day was when I was like 15 and I was an emotionally volatile little shit who still needed to learn to manage his emotions. Can’t believe that we have dudes who never grew out of this phase, only doubling down, running around acting like they’re the superior sex.
You sir. You are a good man.
Yuuup, smashed a controller or two in my time, and quickly learned that I don’t like when my stuff breaks, and have to master my emotions better/find better ways to vent, and then I did. Wild to watch full grown adults who never learned the same, and are just… wasting money replacing things, I guess.
My SNES controller still bears the scars of when I smacked it into my grandparents’ brick fireplace when I was 12. And I learned the importance of controlling my emotions as a result of the time I got mad at Panzer Dragoon Saga and ripped the disc out of my Saturn–scratching it EXACTLY where I was stuck in the game (like, it ran fine until that particular boss battle began, then it glitched out). I was able to fix the disc years later with a Disc Doctor (and still have the game), but given how rare and valuable that game is these days I still feel the pang of regret for having such a short temper. But the silver lining to that is that it all began a process of learning to properly handle my emotions AND gives me a good cautionary tale to tell my kids when they start getting mad at games and I tell them to take a break.
Philadelphia officials grease city light poles, often with Crisco or hydraulic fluid, to prevent fans from climbing them during major sports celebrations, notably for the Philadelphia Eagles.
Every time there’s football matches between Rangers and Celtic in Glasgow, they send out the riot police because shit can get violent very easily.
On the other side of the central belt in Edinburgh, there were plans to have separators on the trams to keep Hibs and Hearts fans separate.
London tube trains have to skip some stations on match days to prevent certain fans mixing and fighting. Doesn’t stop them banging on the tube trains. Arsenal tube station has bars specifically designed to stop rival teams fighting each other on the stairs.
Millwall fans are so notoriously violent when the Dockland’s light railway was being built, rather than naming a station “Millwall” they named it “Mudchute”. Do you know how bad you have to be to have your area’s station named after a euphemism for arsehole.
Women shouldn’t vote unless they’re over the age of 18.
Great news! Before the age of 18, they’re not women.
Are you saying Louisa May Alcott lied to me?
We could use the same post about Trump and it would be 100% accurate
Not really, she was too young to own a phone.
I like the whole “I tried but didn’t really care at all” vibe with the username censoring.
I call it “hentai censoring”
I though the idea was to deface the post to show that you disagree with it.
Fathernathan already defaced it more than anybody else could.
How would it even work to have 1000s of emotions each minute? That’s a minimum of 16,6 emotions every second. Is he under the impression that women have superhuman time perception?
I have BPD and it makes perfect sense to me.
I imagine trying to keep up with feeling all of those emotions must be like playing a song on Guitar Hero that’s just a bit too fast for your current abilities
It does! 🥹
Yeah. BPD sucks. I am glad that I kicked it’s butt. Not fully, but the progress has been huge in last few months.
🎉🎉🎉
The little red line through the name is somewhat confusing.
It was a very poor attempt at censoring his name (not mine).
Yeah, that’s completely legible. Must not have cared too much, I suppose.
Have you ever watched hentai?
Joey, have you ever seen a cartoon man naked?
I love the idea that homeownerships is this great stabalising force on your psyche
Only when it comes to women
It is though. The bitterness I felt for the world subsided (a little) once I felt I had a stake in it.
Bootlicker answer I know, but its true
Did you not live in the world before owning a tiny piece of it?
This same land ownership argument was made in the 1640s, and then again in the 1770s, all to limit the rights of poor people in favor of the rich landlords.
The rich assholes won the English civil wars, mostly because the opposition didn’t know what the hell they wanted or how to get it. And then Oliver Cromwell died without preparing any sort of successor.
The new American government, having eventually learned its lesson, quickly abandoned the land ownership requirements for voting because it never made any god damn sense in the first place, and was just a way to keep poor people down, and the poor had just learned how to wage a war on absentee landlords.
I did, but I lived in the optimism that my work ethic would easily win me a stable place within it. It was only after several moves, moving up a few rungs in the ladder, and hitting my late thirties did I realise what a crock it all was.
Also I’m not advocating that landowners are the only ones who should vote, the Earl Gray sat through that mess in the 1830s. I’m saying that one’s emotionally driven feelings towards the system subsides somewhat when one is persecuted less by it, which makes sense.
the smugglers and slavers that started the american civil war over taxes they didn’t want to pay were all landowners too
And killing people!
I would say that the majority of women that I know are more emotionally intelligent than the guys I know…
Most of the guys I know are emotionally repressed because they need to be a man.
He is describing Donald Trump, actually.
Edit: except he does have real estate. But he still shouldn’t be in charge.
You think they are too emotional to vote but want to give them guns and tell them to shoot things?
Flawless logic /s
It’s jaicilgin. He’s an incel that says women should be owned by men. He’s perpetuating the male loneliness epidemic by encouraging men to be terrible pieces of shit.
