For example, if a wealthy person only wants to socialize with and date other very wealthy people, how would they know? Like, for example, what if LeBron James or Tyler Perry only wanted to be friends with other wealthy people and wanted their kids to only date and marry people from other wealthy families? How would they know the people they meet also come from multi-millionaire families? I’m sure if a random billionaire met someone at a club or social event, they wouldn’t introduce themselves by saying, “I’m X, Y, and Z, and I’m worth this much money.” What if a son of a multi-millionaire wanted to date a woman who came from a wealthy family? Also, if he meets a woman, how would he know if she comes from money or not? Like I said, she wouldn’t say, “I come from generation wealth” right off the bat.
The place where you meet them, and the quality and style of clothing.
For real, just like cars, expensive clothing is recognizable. Don’t get me started on shoes, watches, etc.
Income frequently defines where and how people socialize, I’m pretty sure it’s not an intentional a thing.
I only met people at the whole foods hot bar… over a pound of food = wealthy less than a pound of food /= wealthy. Getting that extra $3 avocado on your burger or sandwich at a restaurant = wealthy. No one’s going to tell you but there will be signs
They go hang out in incredibly expensive country clubs and on their yachts and at elite universities and prep schools, polo camps and air conditioned safaris.
I mean, this is what my cousins did. It was creepy, till I got in one little fight and my mom got scared, and said you’re movin with your auntie and uncle in Bel Air.
I had rich grandparents and great grandparents and they didn’t do any of that. The only “rich” thing I remember them doing is going hunting.
Most of the stuff in this thread is based on fiction and certain types of nouveau riche assholes.
My grandparents never lived rich… my grandfather’s father did build a fortune in Long Island but most of it was lost during the 1929 crash and subsequent Depression. However, what they did do was save and invest and land values were inexpensive in the late 30s so they bought a house for $3K a few blocks from the bay. They always lived really modestly and volunteered, worked civil service type jobs, required all their kids to work after school and really just socked away and invested every dime they could. When my grandmother retired, they bought a condo in Florida and became snowbirds. Our family still has that condo. After my uncle died (he was left the house for his lifetime), his brother sold it for over $600K. The rest of the Trust after my grandparents died was divided among the brothers and survivors of the ones that were already gone. They were never Hamptons rich though.
I mean, what’s mentioned in this thread is what rich people I know do. Plus saw a lot of it in Palm Beach.
This is the function of exclusive social or networking events. Often either an exclusive invite list or very high plate price. You’re either invited to the table, or pay to be there.
Once you’re at the event, you’re either known, or engage in small talk where details are revealed. Here strategic partnerships form, or there are quid pro quo for access to secondary or tertiary networks.
It’s not what you know; it’s who you know.
Wealthy people don’t mingle with the rest of us. They literally live in a totally different world, and you ain’t invited unless you can clean their toilets for cheap, or give them massages on their private Caribbean islands and shut your trap.
The real communitarians and separatists
They don’t go to places you or I go to on the regular. They have exclusive clubs, restaurants, or hang out on someone’s yacht.
For the online side of things, there are actually social platforms designed specifically for wealthy people. For instance, there’s Raya, which is an invite-only dating app that only allows celebrities as members. The platform was kept “secret” by making it accessible only through an iPhone app, whose description in the App Store was intentionally vague and boring, to discourage any plebs from bothering to install it. Raya is just one of many secret “elite” social platforms that most of us have never even heard of. The wealthy live in a completely different reality from us.
Honestly, I don’t see much issue with that, the amount of people with some unhealthy parasocial attachment to celebrities kind of makes it a good idea to limit the userbase
Rich people arent even connected to people who arent rich. Its their entire ecosystem. Everyone has money, thats just how it is. They dont talk about money because they just have it. Its like air.
The very rich probably meet and socialize people who meet at expensive country clubs where one has to prove their wealth for Board approval.
A lot of rich people actually try to live a normal looking life. Stealth wealth, and you might never find them until you get invited to their house.
Their house will be nicer than average, probably not crazy, but just a lot more than a typical person would have. They will have things like fancy light fixtures and switches that don’t look totally normal, the furniture will look normal but if you look closer you’ll only find high quality wood construction, tongue and groove, etc. You should also notice things are probably cleaner than a typical house (because regular house cleaner), everything works, and major appliances are newer generally. They are rich so they don’t have to make any budget trade offs.
These people might have insane net worth and they are trying to down play it because they know how bad it is for them when they are obviously wealthy for so many reasons.
Ostentatious wealth signals are usually sign of a HENRY or a striver, those people typically aren’t actually wealthy they have a lot of debt.
HENRY?
High something Not Rich Yet — people who have a shit-ton of income but blow it all on whatever instead of hoarding it properly
High Earning Not Rich Yet
Their house will be nicer than average, probably not crazy, but just a lot more than a typical person would have.
I hear Michael Bublé lives in a modest house he inherited, and he’s a great neighbour. But he seems as un-Hollywood as people can be, so he may be a bad example.
There’s an app called ‘Rich Kids’
It requires $1,000.00/month fee. People use it just so they can communicate with other rich folks.
I thought you were joking. Fuck, man. Why didn’t I think of that?
Probably because you don’t know anyone who would pay for something like that.
You have to spend time around rich people to come up with an idea like that.
Epstein got a job at an exclusive private school. He was ‘only’ a teacher’ but it gave him access to the ultra wealthy.
Ronald Reagan did the same. He was a mid-level actor who got a gig as a spokesman for a giant corporation. He made sure he was always the poorest guy in the room. People began to offer him stock tips and cut him in for a tiny percentage of multi-million dollar deals.
I know people where even that would be considered cheap and for the poors.
The subscription for the HOA app where I work is 25k a week.
The sub… For the app. Not even the HOA fees. JUST the app. Monthly these people are spending thousands a month for just the privilege to live where they do.
My MIL and her husband once lived in a gated community in Florida that had a gated community inside the gated community… Like the outer one was the buffer zone. The inner one had actual professional security at their gates, not mall security gate keepers.
Yardi is the most expensive HOA software I found when looking and 25k/week doesn’t sound believable unless you’ve got 100,000 houses under management
They meet up on Epstien’s island.
codewords like “skiing”
Where I live in Germany, skiing is a middle class activity.
Finland, and same. Skiing during winter is about as normal as hiking during summer.
I’ve been seeing this year that the cost of a flight from the US to France, mountain ticket for a week in the Alps, and lodging there is cheaper than staying domestic and skiing/lodging in the Rockies for the same time. The majority of US residents would still have to fly to the Rockies anyway. I didn’t verify which exact mountains or level of lodging as I don’t know how, but, presumably, whatever is in the Alps is nicer than the Rockies offerings for the price.
To clarify, skiing is accessible to middle class, but when it’s a personality, it’s a signal of being very comfortably middle class at the least.
Living in a ski town in the US is fucking wild. Either you work at the ski resort, work at the actually essential functions of the town like water and power, or you’re leaving for Cali or Dubai once the snow melts.
That makes sense. For Europeans. For british and americans it’s the hallmark of upper class, as are pursuing sports like mountain biking or horse riding. When 2 or more people like that want you gone from a conversation, they’ll start talking about mountain biking or skiing together.
Depends on where you live. Mountain biking and skiing are very middle class in Colorado and Utah.
In upstate NY too. Plus, there are lots of horse people here. They are just not racing horses usually.
If we’re not talking about the super rich, because there is only a few dozen of them, and they have their own parallel universe… it’s usually mannerisms, language clues (in articulation and content), but of course also signals like expensive clothing and accessories. Also the places where they meet. This opens the door for all kinds of grifters who emulate behaviour and style to get into those circles. Jeffrey Epstein is an (in)famous example for this.
My grandma was very wealthy. She wore tweeds to death. If she’d still been alive she’d have looked down on people showing off their wealth with clothing and accessories.
