Sorry for the weird question, don’t know how else to word it. Basically I’m job hunting and I’m realizing the dress code is gonna be an obstacle.
I exclusively wear skirts and dresses. Not for a religion – I’m agnostic – but for sensory reasons. I hate pants. I hate how they feel on my legs and I haven’t worn them in almost 10 years now. I understand the need to wear pants for some jobs because they’re ultimately safer than a flowy skirt, but one of the jobs I’ve applied to is a bank. I doubt the building is a skirt deathtrap behind the scenes.
Honestly the idea of having to wear pants is so upsetting I’m breaking down over it. It’s so stupid but after I finally found a way to feel comfortable when I started wearing skirts, I don’t think I can go back even if the job is better than my current one.
My only idea is to get some kind of doctors note but even that seems unlikely. Hoping for other ideas here.
Skirts are fairly common formalwear, at least for women. Are you a man? If not, I think any office job, receptionist job, etc, would be fine with you wearing a skirt. I imagine it’d only be some forms of manual labour where a skirt would get in the way.
Why would a bank make you not wear a skirt?
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I don’t think I have seen someone in a skirt in a customer facing role in awhile. In office not to uncommon but dresses seem more common or at least longish skirts.
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honestly if the skirt goes below the knee it kinda gets filed under dress in my brain.
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What kind of skirts are we talking about? Because “business formal” for women typically includes skirts.
Up until the 80s-90s, they were virtually mandatory for women. Probably still are in many countries.
Likely, since you didn’t mention it, you don’t want your gender to be an issue. That’s not the world we live in. If you present as male and want to wear a skirt, the only possible option at bigger corporations is a kilt, but then you’ll need to lean into being “Scottish”. You might find more acceptance at a small business, even a smaller bank, perhaps, depending on where you are.
If you present as female, then I don’t know what to say, I’ve never heard of a job that requires trousers for women apart from for safety reasons.
I present male and I wear skirts to work. The boss said the dress code was black trousers and I said I don’t wear pants. Never been an issue
That said, it’s totally nerve-wracking to make that stand. If an employer refuses on anything other than a safety concern then it’s just bigotry, straight up.
Don’t work for bigots - which can be a difficult stance to take when you don’t know how you’re going to make rent. People don’t deserve to be put in this position, but as you say it’s the world we live in
I salute you o7, the era of men in skirts is long overdue for a comeback.
There is no technical reason a man can’t wear a skirt. The society you live in may “frown” upon it. But that’s a different issue to address entirely
Modern kilts tune down the Scottishness. It can basically be a skirt. A manly man’s skirt, with pockets.
Example: https://21stcenturykilts.com/kilts
Utilikilt!
Don’t forget the sarong as another male alternative. Flipping great in the weather it developed in.
How can I wear a skirt at work
Wear skirt. Go to work.
I don’t know what I’m missing here. Unless there’s a safety reason to the job or a mandatory uniform, why would anyone care? Maybe you’re in a particularly repressive country and I don’t understand the nature of the problem, or why religion comes into it.
if a job requires pants, it’s not a suitable job for you.
I don’t understand what religion has to do with wearing a dress or skirt at a bank job. ?
religious dress code exemption
What religion requires people to wear dresses ?
I’ve never worked for an office that banned skirts or dresses.
Though one banned shorts after Labor Day.
I thought that was pointless.
Some people are large and sweaty. If they want to wear shorts in December. Why not?. Doesn’t affect anyone else.
I hate stupid rules for stupid reasons.
the fundie evangelical movement considers women who wear pants as crossdressing and therefore a sin.
That’s literally no where in the Bible. They just make up a bunch of b.s about anything and everything don’t they ?
Like the rapture. That’s also not in the Bible. Made up.
oh i get it, believe me. growing up queer in that situation was actual hell. the verse they use is the one in leviticus saying men and women shall not dress like each other, and their reasoning was that pants are mens clothing (how quaint) lol
First and only one I can think of, that would be working in a modern setting, is Pentecostal and specifically denim I think in their case.
Not sure if it’s all Pentecostal or only certain sects or whatever.
If it’s an office job i doubt there will be a pants requirement. Just having clothes on …
Women wear skirts all the time where I work. No one really cares.
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Say you are religious. Who cares. This lie doesn’t hurt anyone.I don’t quite get how religion plays into this but I assume you are a man and are afraid of what others might think of you if you wear a skirt instead of pants.
How about a kilt? They are somewhat accepted as male skirts.
Are you a lady? I work in an office at a sports company (so sporty casual is common) and there are several women here who wear dresses and skirts not pants, several more who switch back & forth. Not me - pants feel much more secure to me - but it’s nothing anyone really notices.
A man wearing skirts we would notice for awhile, not care but notice; if you are customer facing then you might encounter that surprise over and over, if not, I don’t think it will be a big deal.
Are you a man? Call it a kilt.
I am a little confused by this, maybe I just have USA brain.
I’ve worked office jobs for over 30 years now. No employer I’ve ever worked for would forbid women from wearing skirts to the office.
If there’s more to the story and you’re dealing with gender issues then add that information.
have you tried different fabrics or fineness? some of them don’t feel like you’re wearing anything at all.
someone gifted me silk pants a while ago and that’s when i finally understood flanders. lol
if you’re leaving out a part of being an AMAB or a man or a trans woman who is hiding, there’s many traditional clothes in the world that can satisfy that, most common is probably the arab thoub
