First picture is how my 20s looked.
Second picture is how my 40s looked.
I spent my 20s in college and LAN parties. Try them… it’s a blast!
and here you can see the electric meter for the house.
Where’d you get that picture of me and the boys?!
So THAT’S the source of any noise!
Can’t try college right now, but LAN parties are legit! I hope somewhere they’re still a thing…
They were usually just friend groups who took their entire computers over to someones house.
Think sleepover but you also bring a box of electronics
Haha yeah I actually did a few of these before, and they were awesome.
I remember really enjoying UT2k4, Command & Conquer Tiberium Wars, and a ridiculous number of Warcraft III mods (and DOTA lol).
A lot of my friends really liked CounterStrike 1.6 though and…I honestly wasn’t much of a fan hah. (It was the hitboxes and spread. AK bursts center mass? No dice. Get hit in the foot by a submachinegun? Ded. I know, skill issue prolly lol.)
I remember once we played a few games and then everyone just logged into their individual WoW accounts around the end of the night. Lame lol.
Logistically, I definitely don’t miss having to get the game(s) installed on everybody’s machines, and make sure everybody’s got the same patch version, and that kinda thing. Steam’s actually made that a ton easier! (Especially with things like 4 packs and sales.)
More recently we tried a LAN party, and Warsow saved the day since it was free on GOG. That was a TON of fun! Sad that’s a “dead game.”
In highschool the whole computer lab would be playing Battlefield Modern Combat, or Battlefield 2142, and that was REALLY fun with a full house. (Getting to hear people shout “Alright WHO IS
<username>?!?!?!” was great fun.)I would kill for a ressurected battlefield 2142. I know there is a community one out there but I wish it made a comeback as a remaster or something.
SO MUCH. I got so hyped for a brief second there a while back, until I realized it was “2042” and they missed the “1”. Then I was like “Aw c’mon for real?”
The aesthetic was really cool, and Titans mode was awesome. Although I’d like if we could solve the problem where every server owner froze titans in place because they’d crash / slow down the server if people moved them! 😂
I even got that preorder version that gave you a flashdrive that looked like one of their dogtags. THAT was cool!
But we need a good smaller studio to basically create a spiritual successor. Definitely wouldn’t trust EA with this anymore! It’d have some rootkit-style windows-only anticheat and a storefront baked in.
It’s right up there on my unlikely wishlist along with “Sims 3 but allow more RAM and multithreading.” 😂
Actually know what tho? Titanfall 2 fills that 2142 niche somewhat closely. That game’s incredible. I’m glad we seem to still have that, at least.
They still can be!
Casual multiplayer games are really seeing a resurgence lately and I couldn’t be happier!
RV There Yet, Peak, Sledding Game, Lovers in a Dangerous Spacetime, A Gentlemen’s Dispute, are just a few!
Oh yeah, when I see couch co-op games go up, I collect them. I’m so glad this is coming back!
I recently introduced some family to playing Worms: Armageddon hotseat style, and that was ridiculous fun. (And it can run on a potato probably! Lol)
The hardest thing anymore is just getting adults in a room together, and convincing them to try new games and get set up and everything.
(Jackbox tends to be most accessible but I really want to play more involved games with people…)
The hardest thing anymore is just getting adults in a room together, and convincing them to try new games and get set up and everything.
So much this 😿
It’s hard to get people in a room together but at least getting them into a group chat is easier, and usually once you can get past that barrier for awhile get the IRL barrier cleared can be easier.
What’s a good number of parasocial AI friend instances to invite for a good time?
Trying to get a human connection from an LLM is a fast why to cook your brain.
I don’t think land parties have been a thing for a long time
Sure older people will do them but that is out of nostalga for what was
Honestly, just moving into a semi-walkable 120k pop city did wonders for my social life. Its literally just the convenience of being able to just go and socialize on a dime basically whenever.
People moving into suburbia and rural areas are insane. Just asking for mental illness.
Too bad cities don’t come with friends
You’d have ample chances to meet some though. That is basically what I’ve been doing for the past 4 months since moving into my apartment with a surprising amount of success, given how crotchety and autistic I am.
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I’ve lived in 4 of the biggest cities in the world and I’ve just hit 30 and moved rural - smaller cities are best for socialising, but depending on your hobbies rural can be better than big cities. Completely agree that walkability is key, just adding nuance that I don’t agree that cities in general are great like I used to - it can be very hard to live a nice life in a major city
You are going to need to elaborate. Are you saying you choose frequent access to outdoors hobbies rather than socializing or ease of access to a community?
Sure! Big cities can be super isolating, especially if you:
- don’t drink
- don’t enjoy clubbing
- don’t drink coffee
- don’t play or enjoy sports
- live in one of the ‘less desirable’ areas, due to living costs or proximity to work.
Even when some of these weren’t true for me, people who are well established in large cities generally have well established social groups and, although they might be lovely people and very welcoming, aren’t really in the market for proper friendships. Those who are also new to the city like you are very prone to move on themselves within a year or so.
Conversely, people in rural areas are simply desperate for friends. Within 2 months of moving to the country, we had different 2 couples who made it clear they wanted to give being friends a proper go - simply because they are desperate and we seem like we’re on a similar vibe. There’s definitely much less variety in sports, especially high level stuff, but conversely (as you said) we now have much easier access to great hikes/day walks. People here are also significantly more likely to be interested in gardening, pickling, jam making, bread making - all the self-sufficiency stuff. Much less of a “grindset” which can be super exhausting. Oh! People in rural areas also seem to be more likely to like board games, which my partner loves.
Don’t get me wrong, I love big cities - the amazing food, the great public transport (I LOATHE driving), the culture and events. Everything has pros and cons though.
Conversely, people in rural areas are simply desperate for friends. Within 2 months of moving to the country, we had different 2 couples who made it clear they wanted to give being friends a proper go - simply because they are desperate and we seem like we’re on a similar vibe.
You lucked out. I’ve lived in a ton of rural areas and its almost always Trump country and at best maybe some centrist/libertarian wackos or even if there are lefties they’re religious or something. The only rural types that are OKish are the hippy types, and even they can be annoying in large doses with their nonsense spirituality, smell, and cliquey musical tastes. I never end up living near the hippies though.
That said, “desperate to make friends” is something I have observed in rural and suburban areas. Its just by living there, so are you. I’d rather be able to filter through a large number of people and find people that match my specific beliefs as close as possible than be stuck with a dice roll of just a few (sometimes distant) neighbors.
Rural area can be walkable as well.
I’m living in a village (~1500 people), we have one car for 3 adults and the car is used maybe once a week on average.
Everything else is done walking or biking. Walking the kids to school taking a path along a steam of water, there is several bar and restaurants in the village center, a bakery, a small grocery shop, a local producers shop, a market, barber … I’m working remotely and I have a coworking space in the village as well.
The streets are always busy and everyone say hi to each other.
We just need to have less car centric spaces.
Love this. Where is this? I’m trying to convince local people that we can develop less car-centric spaces in rural areas and I’d love more examples to use
I’m in France.
Euro-rural just hits different.
American rural is usually something like “5 pioneer families started farms along a dirt road here 100 years ago, but the market on corn bottomed out and they mostly sold their plots to housing developers or speculators, and whoever didn’t move out either works at the gas station or in the city an hour and a half away to support the drug habits of the ones that couldn’t find work”.
Villages can be ok. It still fundamentally limits you to the median type of person though, and I’m pretty strange and picky, I need big numbers so I can find my people.
Walkable city of any size, really. The show in the picture takes place in NYC which is huge but great for getting around without a car, so you can get drunk and have fun. Of course you probably won’t be walking from Queens to Manhattan, but you can take the subway at least
Most of my 20s took place in a very walkable city of 90k and at some point I lived next to my favourite bar. I didn’t spend much time at home.
I wish I had that in my 20’s. I’m trying to salvage things in my late 30’s.
Privileged boomer right here
No war but class war. I will defend my Gen X brothers and sisters to the end.
for having the privilege to sit on your asses and do jack shit and then sitting on your asses and doing jack shit? bravo gen x. bravo. is that what you wanted?
I’m a millenial. I don’t need your approval and never asked for it.
You’re the one stuck on generational infighting.
If you want to reduce intergenerational conflict, it helps to acknowledge the pain and how society has failed the less privileged.
As a millenial, you likely had a fairly normal childhood, a privelege many GenZ did not, due to COVID.
Obviously this isn’t your fault, and older generations have privelege you don’t have. If we want to advance class interests we need to be intersectional, and acknowledge the unique problems that affect some groups more than others.
I agree. The unfortunate thing is that many young people online are so vitriolic toward those older than them it is hard to make that connection. Case in point the person above attacking someone for what seemed like no reason.
uh, I think MTV was a generation or two after boomers?
I was born in 1973, bitch. I’m no boomer.
You got a channel that actually had music in it :)
GenX is called boomer-lite these days
Yeah, in the generational war, it’s always about shifting the blame to the other generation.
Boomer is about the old looking on the young as lazy, bad with money etc. while having the whole pie in their mouth.
If it quacks like boomer and smells like boomer…
As someone who did live like image 1 in late 20s and early 30s, it sucks so much when you have to go back to image 2.
Maybe better not to experience it at all.
Same, I’m 42 and went out every weekend with friends for a good 5-6 years from like 21-27. You could actually afford to do that back then.
You mean you own a house? Wow man congrats!
And he has time to watch TV.
A buddy and me were the first in our circle to get an apartment after college, so we became the meeting place. It wasn’t a party house, we drank beer, and smoked weed, but it was calm and quiet, and the old folks below us never complained. They were frequent visitors, as a matter of fact.
People would start showing up around 8. My buddy and I managed different record stores, and we were into all sorts of music, and we had ALL the latest promo recordings, so usually we had a ball game on the TV with no sound (for our buddy Mark, who loved sports), while we listened to music, smoked, and talked. There were usually a dozen people, guys and girls, all ages, right up to old folks downstairs, sometimes. He’d had a stroke, and he could understand everything, but couldn’t converse, beyond random curse words, which he would deliver with either exasperation or disbelief, which we all thought was hilarious, and so did he and his wife.
At 11:30, we’d watch Johnny Carson’s monologue on the TV, and at midnight wed switch it over to two episodes of Twilight Zone. After that, everybody went home.
That was our ritual about 3-4 nights a week for a couple of years, until everybody started to scatter as they found jobs in different places. We’d go out now and then, but only because we weren’t going to meet any new girls hanging around our apartment. Going out often meant moving the party to someone else’s place for the night.
We couldn’t afford to go out to party much, but we always had a better time at home with our friends, especially since there were no threats of judgemental parents, RAs, etc. Our first real taste of true adult freedom was sweet enough to keep us happy.
plot twist: the “old” folks downstairs were 35.
Wait a minute, you had furniture AND a television that was fairly up to date? What sort of bougie person is this?
This is in their parents’ house.
Between rent, school loan, car payments and groceries I was pretty much tapped out. Pulling 60hr weeks I didn’t have social time even if I wanted to.
20 years later I never made new friends but at least I’m working a normal 40hrs. Still paying all the same bills and still no time. But I do see the same parents at all the kids activities. That’s close enough, right?
I do see the same parents at all the kids activities. That’s close enough, right?
that’s pretty much how my parents socialized, so…
Agreed. Just depressing how the moment your kid moves up to a better or different team and poof, your “social network” is gone and needs to be replaced.
yeah. the trick is, finding the parents in the groups that you are actually real friends with. not just acquaintences. having a small regular gatherings with those close friends, the ones you want to keep in touch with. it takes more work, but it is worth it.
this is advice coming from the outside so take it with a grain of salt. it’s like, hey, shit shoveler. shovel more shit. you have too much to do already.
Yeah I think we all get the concept. The issue comes down to time and resources. My “free time” starts around 1AM after all my adulting responsabilities are done. At that point a movie or a book and sleep is all I have time for. Next week is a mild week with 5 days of kids activities, 2 birthday parties, and hopefully finding time to mow the lawn.
yeah, my wife and i don’t have kids and even we are going on dates buying groceries. i don’t know how y’all get it done.
Instead of drowning, you learn to hold your breath. Doesn’t mean it is fun, just keeps you alive.
If the characters hadn’t spent practically every night drinking until 2AM, HIMYM could have been compressed into a movie with a shitty ending instead of 9 seasons with a shitty ending.
FML I thought that was “Friends”. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
Same. The two in the middle look like Monica and Ross on first glance (and a fuzzy thumbnail).
It had few actual laughs and most episodes did feel like filler. Not the worst sitcom, but not the best.
That’s because that’s what a sitcom is, filler. It’s the journey. People complain too much about filler and don’t know what it means.
I’ll take watching TV over drinking anytime. And I hate watching TV.
Drinking is also really bad for you so it isn’t like you are missing much
a bowl tho? fuck yeah
The first one is what my 30s looks like though and I’m happy with that
Excuse you, I’m waiting in videogame lobby as we speak while browsing through Lemmy to pass few seconds as I wait for other players to join. Ohhh, there’s the beep. I must play now.
These kinds of experiences aren’t only in cities, but they do become a lot easier if you’re not living in a cow pasture.
Living in cities brings other challenges. It means there are too many people, so everyone just kind of keeps to themselves.
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What I miss most about the city (D.C.) is how easy and natural socializing was, but I know it’s possible for it to suck there, too. So far, my rural experiences are generally much lonelier, but not without their own charms. But nights out at cool bars or hosting all my cool coworkers at my cool apartment haven’t been nearly as feasible for me in those more rural contexts. (Yet?)
How I Met Your Mother is so interesting to me because the best parts about it stem from the fact that it’s characters are all horrible people. Yet the writer’s clearly don’t realise this very obvious fact about their own show.
Also, it wholly erased it’s own place in the culture by having an absolutely trash final season.
It’s also deeply, libidinally, transphobic. Like, holy shit it’s so bad
The best parts about the show is that people with clearly different values and personalities can still be friends. But i guess it hits differently for echo chambers.
Indeed.
And it makes fun of normal-ass white people way more than it makes fun of queer people, but some people honestly believe that they deserve to be free from all offense unironically. Which is weird.
Any show made pre-2008 is going to have a different vibe culturally.
Still a good show, even if it’s not for your tender palate.
You say words then don’t back up your words with facts.
It’s been a while since I’ve watched the show, why are Robin and Marshall horrible?
