• fibojoly@sh.itjust.works
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    10 hours ago

    Because marriages and weddings are to show the community you’re together. That’s the whole point. Some people are a bit more extrovert about it than others, as in all things.

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      7 hours ago

      Yeah but community pressure shouldn’t factor into the equation when making the decison

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        4 hours ago

        Chances are, they’ve talked about it beforehand and it’s only a matter of making the decision public…

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          1 hour ago

          Yes, but just like how I might say I want a cup of tea later, only for later to come and I realise that I dont actually want the tea after all, I should be able to refuse without feeling pressured to conform because of the expecting audience

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            24 minutes ago

            Well, I’m hoping, they also talked about whether she wants a public proposal. If she told him to ask her with a megaphone, whether she wants tea, then she’s hopefully sure enough. Well, and it’s not either like she’ll have to empty that cup of tea right then and there. There’s still plenty ways to back out, if she starts doubting herself.