• pastel_de_airfryer@lemmy.eco.br
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    14 days ago

    I had a girl do that on our first date. She was feeling insecure because she never dated online before. Once she felt comfortable with me, her friends left.

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        14 days ago

        Like the guy defenitely comes off as a dick but also if you check out conventional social media you will see guys who talk about being expected to pay for not just the girl but also their friend, and you will see girls talk about how if she brings a friend for protection then the guy should pay for the friend too.

        So many variables exist that we don’t know but for some people there an expectation that if a girl brings a friend the guy needs to pay for both and I wouldn’t default that to just misogyny

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          13 days ago

          I had girls bring a friend with them when I asked them out on a date and it didn’t even occur to me that I would pay for them. But also I wouldn’t expect the friend to hang around the entire time either, once it turned out I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone they generally went away.

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        13 days ago

        She NEVER said that she didn’t expect him to pay, she just ignored it, and kept justifying why it was okay to bring her friend. She fully expected him to pay for dinner and drinks for both.

        These girls are predators, and they tried to treat him like a chump, and people are pissed because he showed some self-respect.

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          13 days ago

          These girls are predators, and they tried to treat him like a chump

          You’ve been successfully baited by a fake screenshot and are displaying misogyny.

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            13 days ago

            It’s not misogyny to recognize and acknowledge that women can be bad people, just like men can be. In fact, recognizing that women are just regular people, is the opposite of misogyny.

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              13 days ago

              I don’t think all women are perfect (and never said such), but this post is 100% a fake screenshot that’s misogynistic rage bait.

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      12 days ago

      Ive had a couple of times where one of my girl friends has asked me if I could be at a bar they were going on a date at to keep an eye on it in the background. Not like sit down or get to know the guy or anything, just keep an eye out and be there if things go south.

      Several times ive known the guy as well. One time I accidentally recruited the date to help me keep an eye on my friend. Had no idea the 2 had never actually met (grew up a grade apart, been in the same social circles for decades)