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When I got my first car my grandmother told me “don’t do anything to it that makes it stand out to the police.”
This was specific to calculus homework but it has turned out to be very good advice, “when you don’t know what to do, do something”. Often decisions can be paralyzing or problems can feel insurmountable but doing nothing is a choice. Very rarely is it the best one.
Me: this seems like sound reasoning, I should follow it and be more decisive
My ADHD:
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Yeah. I see a lot of people get stuck on problems where they get free iterations because they try a couple of things, get stuck, and require others to come up with more ideas.
Analysis paralysis is real. And it’s funny, I joke that I made a lot of poor decisions as a kid, I was impulsive, did what came to mind, but it all led me to a pretty good life, and so I’m all about just do it and deal with it.
I am not sure that’s a good in idea, but I’ll reassess from my deathbed.
Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are. I thought it was stupid when I heard it as a kid, but it’s the damned truth and I turned my life for the better after cutting loose some people I should not have called my friends.
Good Critical Thinking Skills are the only education you need. With Critical Thinking Skills, you can learn anything you need to know, and recognize and avoid those who will try to interrupt your life journey and take advantage of you.
Professionally, the question that needs to get answered isn’t the question being asked. Always get context.
if the whole world smells like shit, check your shoe.
It was advice I have myself in college… Don’t focus on getting good grades, focus on learning. Judge your success on how much you learned.
The only time my grades actually mattered was interviewing for jobs right out of college. After that, every other job is based on your previous job and non no one ever asked again.
I’m in engineering and it this doesn’t necessarily translate to other fields. But I’m currently the cto for a mid sized tech company.
Don’t be crap. This means you.
I don’t get it
I think it’s pretty simple. In any given situation, don’t be crap. This means you.
This one may sound a bit silly, but it’s worked for me quite a few times:
“Whatever happened before or might happen later, right now, just for this moment, everything’s fine.”
(of course, if something bad is actually happening at a given moment you’re probably not going to be spending time remembering that little tidbit. It’s for when you’re feeling depressed or anxious).
Don’t be the first one to leave a party, but don’t be the last one either. - my grandmother.
You guys should be going at it. Whenever you want, all the time. Enjoy it
Emotional and ready to quit your job/break up with someone/confront someone?
Write down what you want to say/write. WRITE IT ALL DOWN.
Wait 24 hours. Read it again.
Do you still think you should send it? Then send it.
80% of the time my issue was stupid and my reaction inappropriate, but because I kept my mouth shut, all I had to do was tear up a piece of paper.
Thanks dad. That’s served me well.
Also, even if you are making the right descision in breaking things off, often the more you say the more ammo/pain you are giving to the other party. Most of the time, the “wait 24h” trick makes you realize you are saying too much.
Admitting a mistake is NOT the same as admitting weakness or stupidity.
When admitting to a mistake be sure to address how you plan to fix it. Especially if it’s a mistake at work.
Depends on the culture:
in empiricist/objective science-culture, that’s true, but in authority-based cultures, … that won’t work.
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Never make fun of someone’s job. No matter how “beneath you” it is, somebody has to do it, and we should all appreciate that they do it.
What about looksmaxing influencers? I can make fun of their job right?
That’s not a job.
I think the jury is still out on whether or not that’s a job, so I think it’s allowed for now.
My brother keeps bringing up parking wardens and no matter how I’m trying to put myself in their (employer’s) shoes, I’m unable to convince him.
No, your brothers right. Fuck those assholes.
Hey, there’s always exceptions to the rule. 🤷🏻♂️
Everyone’s got a job, so they can feed themselves at least
Also, they don’t make the rules, they just implement them. They’re not the cause, just the symptom. Go for the cause.
Ah, the old “I was only following orders” excuse.
You can’t accept an immoral job, and then just dismiss the immorality by saying “I was only doing my job.”
Comparing parking enforcement to nazis is crazy.
It’s all about the Slippery Slope. It’s a short, fast trip, all on the same slope.
Only break one law at a time.
Thank you pops. It probably did keep me from fucking my life up (worse).
My father put it a slightly different way:
If you’re going to do something dumb, be smart about it
I knew an older guy that would always tell me, “Be good. If you can’t be good be careful”. He also phrased the OP statement as, “One crime at a time”.
