• southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
    1529·
    1 month ago

    F&g

    That being said, for anyone that ever gets into a similar situation, the correct thing to say/do after the thumbs up is to say , “and thank you for sharing them with me. May I enjoy them more directly?”

    You can paraphrase that, it’s just the idea.

    But, my boob loving homies, it doesn’t matter if you’ve been married to the boob owner for decades, pay appreciation to them tiddies every time you get access to them, visually or otherwise. I promise you, it will never be a bad thing to give appreciation to a partner for sharing their body with you. You don’t have to be formal about it, something like “baby, I’m so happy you let me motorboat your funbags” will work if that’s the kind of relationship you have. Something like “honey, even after all the days and nights we’ve shared, I never stop being happy we’re together, and that you share yourself with me like this.” might be a bit better received by some.

    Fuck, for my dick loving homies out there, it works while you’re fondling balls too.

    Remember, sex is someone giving you full access to their body, with all the vulnerability that comes with that. Be aware of the wonder that it is. Share that wonder with them.

    I’m 50 now. I’ve had intimate access to women since I was under 18, with varying degrees of regularity. Never once has saying thank you in a genuine and personal way gone wrong. Not once.

    And I’ll tell you, when a partner says it to me, it never fails to make me happy.

    • RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works
      24·
      1 month ago

      Honestly, I found the most effective way to get the titty high is to grow them yourself. You can take this medication that’ll let you grow some right on your chest so you’ll always have access to a pair you can squeeze.

    • MentalEdge@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      131·
      1 month ago

      You might also ask what she wants to do.

      Usually, when things get going, my go-to has been “wow… Where do you want this to go?”

      Sometimes you don’t get an answer, and thats ok. Lots of people just get things going but expect you to then take charge.

      Other times I find that people have hopes for what they’d like to happen.

      And specifically asking about that is step one to giving someone exactly what they want.

      And thank yous are always nice. Both to hear and say.

  • Pelicanen@sopuli.xyz
    55·
    1 month ago

    I can add that if you ever say something that you yourself think was stupid, it’s often better to just own up to it than to play it off (within limits). Something like “That was a stupid thing for me to say, I’m sorry, you’re just very beautiful and I’m a bit nervous” as an example.

    • Demdaru@lemmy.world
      48·
      1 month ago

      …yeaaaah… that’s worse than original. “Nah, sorry, got brainlocked cuz damn you’re beautiful”.

      Make it informal, silly and goof off of your own reaction to remove the awkward and embrace the “you’ll make fun of me for this later”.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.netEnglish
    493·
    1 month ago

    This is why even though I am pan, I have a preference for men. Girls drop signals that I ain’t catching. A dude will just be like “I’m hard. Wanna suck it?”

    Shit, I had a GF break up with me because she said I never touched her. Well yeah; I’d ask if she wanted to, she’d say no, then sulk that I listened to her. 🤦‍♂️

    • intensely_human@lemm.ee
      34·
      1 month ago

      In an uber driver. Had a passenger ask if I was gay. I told him no. He said “that’s too bad, because I’d pay you $100 to suck your dick”

      So straightforward. So little wasted energy.

      Anyway, I got some groceries now so that’s one thing off the list.

  • MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca
    46·
    1 month ago

    I had something similar happen to me. I was helping a friend with homework, and she abruptly and excitedly said her nipple was tender, and showed me her new nipple piercing. I just froze and said it was nice. She lingered for a while, then put it away.

    The poor girl must have been exasperated with me. I just never caught on.

    • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world
      33·
      1 month ago

      That’s good because if you play with it before the piercing has a chance to properly heal, it can get infected.

      • MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca
        11·
        1 month ago

        Believe me after the fact I’ve imagined lots of clever retorts to engage in play with her other non pierced nipple.

        It was for the best though. At one point years later she told me she was going to perform a certain sex act for her boyfriend’s birthday, but implied she needed lots of practice beforehand to make sure she got it “right”.

        In that scenario I’m glad I was so dense.