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    3 months ago

    This is definitely one of those ‘creepy if ugly’ moments. If he was a handsome guy, it would be romantic and has almost definitely happened in a million Hallmark movies.

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      3 months ago

      Listening in on conversations is creepy, no matter how good-looking a person is.

      And that stuff happens in movies doesn’t mean it isn’t creepy in real-life.

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        3 months ago

        Not really. If you were discussing with somebody about some terminal illness you were raising money for and somebody approached and said: “Sorry, but I overheard what you said and I’d love to donate, if that’s okay” that would not be creepy in the slightest.

        There is a difference between ‘overhearing’ and ‘purposefully spying’

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          3 months ago

          Well, OP wasn’t donating money, was he?

          The scenario you brought up would be creepy too, but people tend to value money over the slight discomfort of creepiness.

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            3 months ago

            In what world is it creepy to overhear somebody saying something in a public place? Have you ever been in a social situation before?

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              3 months ago

              In what world is it not creepy to butt into some strangers’ personal conversation after overhearing details that were clearly not addressed to you?

              Have you ever been in a social situation before?

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                3 months ago

                There is context and nuance to everything. If you think this situation is ALWAYS creepy then I’m afraid you are objectively incorrect.

                Children walk up to each other on a playground and butt in and make friends happily. Why do you want us all to be boring robots that never interface?

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      3 months ago

      It’s not so much creepy if ugly, so much as creepy if not confident.

      And the way to become confident in something is to do it a bunch of times.

      Lesson being, it’s okay if someone thinks you’re creepy. You’re just in the process of developing a new skill.