• .Donuts@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    On Lemmy I feel like we do the same except for instances. Some person signs up with an instance oblivious to its politics but will get judged based on it.

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      12 days ago

      Except people accidentally join dumb instances. Nobody accidentally sets their pfp as a preteen anime girl. That shit is a choice.

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        12 days ago

        Ummmmm actually my discord pfp is definitely of a girl in her early twenties. Well, ok MAYBE she’s a teenager but she’s definitely of age!

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      11 days ago

      I signed up to lemmy waaay before the reddit API thing and back then there were only like three instances available.

      My instance gets blocked a lot and now I know its because I am apparently a tankie.

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    12 days ago

    Hot take: it’s totally fair to judge someone based on their avatar as that’s literary what it is, a pictorial summary of what you’re all about.

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      11 days ago

      Counterpoint: sometimes it’s just a funny picture I like, and sometimes it’s some anime titties I like. Assuming it’s always going to be a meaningful representation of the user is unrealistic.

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        11 days ago

        Counterpoint: sometimes it’s just a funny picture I like,

        Fully fair, likewise it’s also fully fair for someone to make judgements on you based on that funny picture if you choose to engage in different kinds of conversations outside of the space where people joke about funny pictures.

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          11 days ago

          Sure, just like it’s fully fair for people to clown on someone for judging them based on something as unserious as a social media profile picture.

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            11 days ago

            Then congratulations, now instead of engaging and interacting it’s just an immature schoolyard shouting match which could have been avoided by taking more care in how you present yourself.

            But I am gathering that there are a lot of people who really enjoy schoolyard shouting matches and invite them because it makes them feel superior to fight others over trivial nonsense.

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              11 days ago

              Or, and hear me out here, instead of escalating to a “immature schoolyard shouting match” for whatever reason, you could look at a person’s pfp, have your feelings about it, and then move on to something that actually matters

              But I am gathering that there are a lot of people who really enjoy schoolyard shouting matches and invite them because it makes them feel superior to fight others over trivial nonsense.

              The irony of you saying this is not lost on me

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        11 days ago

        I mean it tells me that you’re somebody who weighs levity over seriousness. Even if it doesn’t specifically tell me who you are, to imply that any choice is devoid of meaning is equally unrealistic.

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            11 days ago

            Bro do you think I typed this through clenched teeth or something? My comment was in exactly the same light tone as yours.

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              11 days ago

              Nope, just clarifying since you seemed to be confused. Anything else I can help with, let me know partner

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      11 days ago

      Fully agree, you choose profile pictures based on how you want to present yourself to the world. It does communicate a message. A message that if not chosen with some level of care will signal different things to different people.

      If you come to a party wearing a stained shirt and haven’t showered I will assume you don’t actually care. Likewise, if you are arguing politics or mature topics and your profile pic is some obscure, underage anime girl, I will also make assumptions about how much actual media exposure you have that you choose to present yourself to the world with that image.

      This isn’t persecution or discrimination, this is just how people relate to each other, particularly in an information world where we can’t judge the rest of you.

      edit: based on the replies and threads in this post, it’s wild how many people do not give a shit how they are perceived by others in any regard and are angry at the idea that someone might judge them for how they present themselves. And then we wonder why everyone is so lonely and angry and cynical. These are related concepts guys, you HAVE to learn to socialize better. Seriously, this avoidance of accountability is eroding the whole fucking world.

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      10 days ago

      Obviously anyone is free to judge anyone based on whatever criteria they want.

      People are allowed to have whatever impression they want over something like anime pfps. That person who decides it’s some crazy negative red light or whatever, just won’t be my friend, which is fine. Sometimes people forget that not everyone has to be your friend.

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      12 days ago

      A lot of people don’t treat it as such though, and thus it becomes odd to assume so. But some things are just downright questionable, obviously.

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    12 days ago

    Your not going to stop me from saying unhinged shit in political subs.

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      11 days ago

      Furry pfp means chaotic neutral. They can do whatever.

      Also, they drew the pfp themselves on some drawing tablet.

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        11 days ago

        I used to shake my fist at how many people had really shitty hand-drawn furry profile pics and often made the judgement that they drew furry shit just because it’s harder to draw people’s faces.

        Now I instantly praise anyone who has any kind of low-quality but obviously non-AI made imagery on display to the world. I don’t care if it’s ball-point pen on lined notebook paper. You rock on with that artistic bravery king or queen.

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      11 days ago

      If you witness that kind of exchange taking place, you can probably toss the entire convo out.

      Although, I would lean more towards the furry pic than the anime pic, at least furries are largely autistic adults who consume a ton of information and may have more educated opinions on some topics. At least from my experience working adjacent to the tech sector.

      Whereas a suspiciously large percentage of people who choose anime profile pics are just saying “this is a cartoon girl I want to bang” while also being a raging nazi online.

      • 𝔼𝕩𝕦𝕤𝕚𝕒@lemmy.world
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        12 days ago

        I’d say kicking it but frankly not a lot of kicking anything with the ankle. Uk how it is. Generally Greece hasn’t been friendly towards people with kinetic disabilities what with all the stairs and ships and all, so I live on an island relying on the community.

        Lovely woman opened a hotel here. Had to move out when her daughter was gonna get married but apparently there was like 3 men who might be her dad…and they sang about it? Idk lotta personal issues there. So just hanging around with some guy and his rock these days.

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    11 days ago

    Hi, I AM IN YOUR WIFI. NOW RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. YOU BAKA

    Fuck That now it’s full on war

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        10 days ago

        Means stupid, but can have different meanings depending on context, inflection, or pronunciation. For example it can be used for a rough equivalent to calling someone a dumbass.

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    11 days ago

    Similar to the Yahoo email I created when I was 14. Somehow C0d_G0dx69_420@yahoo (Made up but similar) isn’t quite the professional impression I want to make now a days.