• baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      27·
      23 days ago

      in my entire playthrough I’ve never seen the perspective switch to somebody else, which is very boring but also focuses all my attention on one character

      • Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        12·
        22 days ago

        You have to use the bed at night (or during the day for a debuff if you don’t have the night owl characteristic), there’s a random chance a dream sequence will initiate and give you other POVs.

        • baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
          2·
          21 days ago

          actually i just (16 hours ago, just put the two things together in my head) had my first dream that I’m aware of where i possessed someone else’s viewpoint, so being aware of that possibility is definitely important. first time being a woman too.

  • flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    69·
    23 days ago

    Well in return I can be a big tiddy bf who watches anime and plays video games but not too much and can be her mom and her therapist

  • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
    644·
    23 days ago

    I remember a post where a guy was like “why does she get all dressed up to go out with her friends but with she just wears sweatpants?” and the “with me” clip had bro in basketball shorts, a t-shirt, and a baseball hat. One of the comments said something along the lines “she’s putting as much effort in as you are.”

    Too many of us dudes have such garbo fashion sense they seem to believe that wearing a t-shirt without holes and their “nice shorts” is enough to start complaining about women and it’s just sad.

    • Novaling@lemmy.zipEnglish
      25·
      23 days ago

      Also, are we talking about being at home, or going out on a date with the guy? If she’s chilling at home of course she’s gonna be in fucking sweatpants. Do you expect her to look like a TikTok influencer 24/7? Hell, even if it was an outing, if you’re going to a regular, mom-and-pop diner or some shit, I also wouldn’t expect someone to dress mega fancy, especially if you’re already with them.

      But yeah, don’t wear a plain ass T-shirt and shorts to a nice date and expect your partner to always be ready to model for a fashion brand…

    • phar@lemmy.mlEnglish
      174·
      23 days ago

      What is hilarious is when people come into an interview like a scrub. I understand you spent four hundred dollars on those basketball sneakers. But they’re basketball sneakers. You didn’t get the job because you obviously make bad decisions.

      • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
        13·
        23 days ago

        And to that end, dressing up nice enough for interview at most places shouldn’t even be that high a bar. Dark jeans and a nice button up, even one with patterns honestly, will probably be enough. After that, though, most jobs pay like shit and treat people worse than that so if they expect me to show up in a suit and jerk them off they can get bent.

        • phar@lemmy.mlEnglish
          71·
          22 days ago

          I would personally avoid jeans but a polo and khakis would be 100% acceptable. I wouldn’t discount someone in dark jeans. I had someone show up in designer ripped jeans. Just no, dude. This is a job interview.

      • MonkderVierte@lemmy.zipEnglish
        81·
        22 days ago

        If the job isn’t representative or dealing with customers, fuck off with fashion sense or pay for the uniform.

        • phar@lemmy.mlEnglish
          41·
          22 days ago

          The job is specifically greeting customers. And we do pay for their outfits. And jackets. And rain jackets. And winter jackets. And hats. And umbrellas. And everything else. But we dont dress people for interviews. And we don’t hire people who show they have no common sense.

    • BeeegScaaawyCripple@lemmy.worldEnglish
      11·
      23 days ago

      gonna be honest. i have eclectic (okay weird) but pretty sharp fashion sense. going out with my wife is always an excuse to dress up. i don’t understand this “wearing a t-shirt without holes and their “nice shorts” is enough to start complaining about women” but i’m fucking vain

      • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
        82·
        23 days ago

        There are a lot of dudes who basically just think that if they meet a bare minimum then they’re owed something. You can see it a lot just walking around and will probably notice it more as the percentage of chain restaurants and parking lots in the area goes up.

        You and I might put more effort in but how we are doesn’t change how they are.

        • BeeegScaaawyCripple@lemmy.worldEnglish
          71·
          23 days ago

          that depends on your opinion. i have a bright bright bright coral linen blazer i’ve fallen in love with lately and i wear whenever the weather is cool enough. pair it with a loud enough patterned shirt and it’s fantastic.

          my bio family jokes that they find ugly stuff on the discount rack and when i put it on it looks good because it matches, but they just don’t have the confidence to pull this stuff off.

    • Echo Dot@feddit.ukEnglish
      92·
      22 days ago

      Well in fairness men’s fashion is essentially t-shirt or suit & tie. There really isn’t the equivalent of what women get, that’s why all the fashion designers make dresses, because men don’t get any effort put into their fashion.

      What is the male equivalent of dress shopping?

      • paranoia@feddit.dkEnglish
        8·
        22 days ago

        Well in fairness men’s fashion is essentially t-shirt or suit & tie.

        T-shirt is fairly versatile but men’s fashion is not that limited.

      • expr@programming.devEnglish
        4·
        22 days ago

        I mean, that’s really not true. Just look at the various male fashion advice communities, streetwear culture, etc. There’s a huge variety in different styles of shirts, outerwear, layering, footwear, accessories, and pants. Hell, even t-shirts and denim have a huge variety in style and quality.

        There’s massive cultural pressure for women to be fashionable and wear the “right” clothes, a pressure men by and large don’t have to deal with. Companies are one of the primary drivers of this pressure by manipulative marketing practices that that convince many women that they need the latest trends and fashions to be keep up.

        All of it is bullshit meant to keep people spending money, ultimately. Fashion should be a form of personal expression and personality and by no means requires purchasing new clothing all of the time.

      • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        22 days ago

        I totally agree that women get a lot more variety but there’s still all kinds of stuff we can do in between. Button up shirts with nice patterns are a huge way to bridge the gap, and you can tuck them in or not and even just leave them open with a t-shirt underneath. Wearing good glasses is important, and frankly we should just pretend those plain black rectangle ones don’t exist because they’re always the worst option. Head to a place like Zenni and it doesn’t have to be expensive(those expensive glasses are a racket).

        I got a pair of black stud earrings a while ago and people were like “goddamn”. I know that’s a little more difficult, but it was a small and not too flashy change that made a big difference. A good haircut is also easy to get since you’re already going to the barber anyway, and I discovered beard brushes a while back which straighten out even very short beards and keep everything looking sharp.

        There’s a LOT we can do even though we’re kinda limited in many other ways.

      • angrystego@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        19 days ago

        Diverse well fitting shirts and non-cargo pants from other materials than denim. More adventurous men can dive into different kinds of tunics, sweaters and such, can have accessories like neckerchieves and scarves, nice bags, footwear. You can play with colors and patterns… Men can have some fun with clothes too.

    • Grass@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      6·
      22 days ago

      I actually really like when my so dresses like shit. I don’t know why I find it so hot. Then we dress up for a dress code restaurant, come home and wear clothes with holes from parrots chewing the shoulders.

    • Valmond@lemmy.worldEnglish
      11·
      22 days ago

      I’d love to dress better, but at my height and gender expectations, best I can do is a good pair of jeans and a nice t-shirt. Would love to do better 😥

      • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        22 days ago

        What does that even mean? I’m 6’-5” and only 175-180lbs and I’m not flush with cash but I still get by just fine.

        • Valmond@lemmy.worldEnglish
          2·
          22 days ago

          I can’t easily find new clothes or shoes as they are not big enough. I can fing but like never what I’d like. Thrift stores? Just forget it. So jeans & t-shirt it is. 6’6 95kilo, maybe where you live there is an abundance of clothes fitting me but here it sure isn’t.

          • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
            2·
            22 days ago

            I’m in Canada. We’re basically the same height but you wear, what, an XL? And I got size 16 feet, so while I understand the struggle I also know that I can definitely get shoes that work(Steve Madden makes shoes that don’t look at all weird when sized up).

            If you’re in Europe I’d be amazed if the Germans or Scandanavians haven’t addressed this issue. If you’re in East Asia well that’s gunna be interesting for sure, and if you’re in Africa I really just don’t have enough info to be of any use.

            • Valmond@lemmy.worldEnglish
              1·
              21 days ago

              I’m Swedish, and the authorised height stops at 1m92 (I jest, but that’s basically how it works, everything must be ‘lagom’). I live in France so that doesn’t help of course, but when I go home, I don’t get lucky either.

              My jeans size is like 34x36 BTW 😁 Or is it 36x34 …

              • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
                1·
                20 days ago

                Waist goes first for jeans. I’m a ~33”x34”. My height is largely in the torso so jeans are a little easier, but 36” inseam is generally not too hard to find. I have good luck with Levis.

                Getting longer pants is straightfoward enough but man I try to find shirts and stuff and it’s just rough. We have a brand in Canada called Eddie Bauer, maybe it’s elsewhere too I have no clue, and they’re awesome for coats and stuff.

  • Rooty@lemmy.worldEnglish
    501·
    22 days ago

    Typically if you go looking for a partner with a checklist you’ll be disappointed. Nobody wants to be graded like a piece of pork.

  • MacN'Cheezus@lemmy.todayEnglish
    6025·
    23 days ago

    Girls be like “where’s my 6 ft+ millionaire bf who also likes to stay home, cuddle, read feminist literature, and does the dishes and laundry without being asked”, meanwhile they’re a single mom with 30 extra pounds and crippling student loan debt.

    • ramble81@lemmy.zipEnglish
      658·
      23 days ago

      Problem is having unrealistic expectations regardless of who you are. You can have preferences but don’t objectify.

      • mrgoosmoos@lemmy.caEnglish
        112·
        23 days ago

        I would say that their comment was perfectly in line with the post lol

        it goes both ways

      • sad_detective_man@leminal.spaceEnglish
        1910·
        23 days ago

        okay, but why do you suppose he described the proverbial “welfare queen” as soon as someone posted a meme about a thing men do?

        • Soulg@ani.socialEnglish
          123·
          22 days ago

          Because both genders do it and it’s only fair to point out that it’s not only the one in the post, exactly as valid as if that comment was the OP and someone commented about men doing it

          • sad_detective_man@leminal.spaceEnglish
            24·
            22 days ago

            I don’t think it’s the same. I’m pretty sure if you made a post of that guys comment or something approximate, it would seem very childish without context. perhaps we should try it as an expirament in a couple days?

            but there’s a precedent for this inequality is kind of known to normal people. that women are only now developing wild standards in late modernity after being culturally compelled into dating utter slags but men have always had pretty stupid and arbitrary concepts of beauty that we learn from television screens.

    • tormeh@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      121·
      23 days ago

      You see this a lot in the comment sections of short videos complaining about men. The expectations are wild. Of course they’re unrepresentative, but these women clearly are out there.

    • Tudsamfa@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      22 days ago

      If you really wanted to express that this goes both ways:

      In the post, it’s “meanwhile, they’re just some guy”. Why not say “they’re just some girl” instead on bashing on single mothers?

  • the_q@lemmy.zipEnglish
    361·
    23 days ago

    People be like “society has imposed unrealistic expectations on everyone about every aspect of their lives causing irreparable damage to the self and the society that created the issue” and they’re just some hairless ape.

  • MissJinx@lemmy.worldEnglish
    396·
    23 days ago

    If they were just some guy it would be ok. In my female experience guys like this are overweigh, jobless, don’t make a single effort at anything and are convinced women own him to be perfect

    • SaintNyx@lemmy.worldEnglish
      121·
      22 days ago

      Seen a lot of men like this with the “ideals” except they have a good job and think it’s a crowning achievement. They also often want their wives to have good jobs and to have separate accounts and expenses? So they want a perfect, pretty, petite wife who’s smart, has a great job, but also cooks, cleans, takes care of the house, and their children. What do they bring to the table? Not the looks, money or house help. Their ✨shining personality ✨? Don’t worry ladies this alpha nice guy’s on the market & just around the corner, lucky you!

      • krunklom@lemmy.zipEnglish
        3·
        22 days ago

        My only requirements are that she’s as depraved and unabashedly slutty as I am and I’m attracted to her.

        Well I guess also that she doesn’t sponge off me.

    • Grass@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      102·
      22 days ago

      this, but somehow a buch of them manage to rope someone way higher tier into dating them. I worked a few years at a place that employed a lot of women escaping abusive relationships. the boss was basically everyone’s mom. All top tier beauties but somehow got only the skeeziest and lazy men.

      • Echo Dot@feddit.ukEnglish
        101·
        22 days ago

        I’m not saying it’s all of them, but if you talk to some of these women they have this weird idea about masculinity, it’s all dressed up but when you strip it all back it’s all toxic.

        Stuff about how it’s unmanly to have a pet cat, and how they should drive a big expensive car, and should pay for everything. I have no idea where they get this stuff from but if that’s how they think, then they are only going to get a scumbag man because they’re the only met that actually conform to that view of masculinity.

        • Grass@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          1·
          22 days ago

          my former coworkers not so much but I have meet plenty of people like this too. There are some really bizarre relationship expectations out there

    • Kaerkob@lemmy.worldEnglish
      31·
      22 days ago

      I think the Venn diagram of guys who want a big tiddy girlfriend with a tiny waist who plays video games and is caring towards them overlaps not only with overweight and jobless but also fit and employed and everything in between. What you’re referring to “don’t make a single effort at anything and are convinced women [owe] him to be perfect” is borderline abusive. You are insulting other overweight and jobless folk with your generalization.

  • Emi@ani.socialEnglish
    28·
    23 days ago

    Girlfriend requirements: being female (optional) , liking each other.

  • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.todayEnglish
    23·
    22 days ago

    I’d love to see this dude that actually thinks that anymore. Today’s trend is to just give up on material life like a zen buddist, but be a nihilist.

  • Jankatarch@lemmy.worldEnglish
    213·
    22 days ago

    I blame the fact that every guy around their mid 20s has a big-thigh male friend with a small waist that watches anime and plays videogames but still has enough time to introduce a random niche hobby like archery every other week that can be both your cool uncle and a therapist.

    How do they do that? Nobody knows.

    Meanwhile every other friend and family member seemingly flips a coin to decide if they wanna fall into the racist pipeline every 2-4 years in US depending on how south you live.

  • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.worldEnglish
    17·
    22 days ago

    Fuck that. I want either a flat chested and skinny or “big tiddy” and thick gf, that watches way too much anime and plays way too much games, and she cannot be my mom in any way of form. However, she must be autistic.

    Signed: just some (autistic) guy