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      I just pirate that porn, heck many of them charge for their OF while they post the same shit that’s on their insta and when they do release something worthwhile you gotta dunk another 50 to get it.

      While already spending 8 bucks a month just to see a mirror of their instagram.

      Just sell the damn video for 58 bucks and leave out the bullshit part of the deal. They’re just playing into addiction related habits to get you to spend more.

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        Doubt it. People would still post revenge porn, unconsensually filmed stuff or leak e.g nudes that were meant for each other and not the public. Because the motivation there is not money, it would be to humiliate, for example.

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        Exploitation takes place when the money isn’t paid directly to the workers. Anyone who cares to consume porn responsibly should consider this before they go to free hosting sites that make money from ad revenue and shady services.

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        i post porn for free but have been paid for it, those are the only times I’ve been uncomfortable

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          But Jennifer, also on the conference call, is always rooting for me 110%. We should all be more like Jennifer.

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        Porn is the only reason I am still married. After our second kid, my wife’s already low sex drive dropped to asexual. She is a wonderful mother, but she is either willfully or ignorantly oblivious to any romantic advance. I get, on average, about one fully clothed, under-the-covers hand job every 6 months or so that’s so unenthusiastic that I am reminded why I stopped trying to get her to do it. I am sexually starving. The only thing I want in the world right now is to feel the warm touch of someone who actually wants to touch me again, but I’d rather die, lonely, but married to her than let my kids grow up in a broken home…

        So ya, I jerk off to porn after she goes to bed.

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          Damn that sucks! Wouldn’t have believed somebody telling you on your honeymoon that so little intimacy was in your future, huh? No fair :( I hope that, if nothing changes, your coping mechanisms remain effective.

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          It’s better to show your kids what is like to be happy and have your needs met than to show them being miserable and setling. Especially on their behalf.

          Which would you rather for your kids?

          Which are you showing your kids by example?

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            Do you have kids? I used to hate when people would ask me that question before I had kids, because it seems to imply that having them places your opinion on a higher tier. Now that I do, I try and avoid it as much as possible for that reason, but I do understand that parenting is one of the theaters where theory space, and optimal practice, can be very different. The fact is, they never have to know, at least until they’re old enough to understand. They don’t have to know that Dad is sad when he’s alone with Mom, because we still have fun and laugh as a family when they are present. The lesson that I’m teaching them by example, is that it is better to have one bedroom than two, then to have to decide whether they want to live with mom or dad most of the time, that even though Mom and Dad civilly argue sometimes, we can still be a family, and be happy most of the time, rather than give up on a promise made before they were born because of factors they can’t possibly understand yet.

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              Yeah. I had a dad that didn’t get laid too. Sex is in the bottom layers of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, then intimacy is up higher as well. If you’re not getting these things you’re not going to be able to hide them. Your kids won’t know why until they’re much older WHY your not happy, but that is a sadness of the soul that nothing can hide.

              You ever see one of your friends the day after they get laid and you just know. That’s a kind of joy from having your needs met that you can’t fake.

              You’re teaching your kids it’s OK with someone who doesn’t meet your needs. It’s not.

              Be with someone who makes you happy. Let your wife do the same. Show your kids what a happy marriage and happy parents look like so they can model their relationships that way. Don’t continue the cycle.

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            Ah, yes. Let me tell the children that I’m getting a divorce cause wifey won’t fuck me

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                Except it seems from the comment that they are still in a loving relationship, just not much of a sexual one.

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                  Cause it’s condescending to explain to a person you don’t know who has been in a serious relationship with a person you dont know for who knows how long that you can tap it if you’re just an extra good boy.

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    The porn industry is so fucked, most actors don’t see much regardless of the popularity of their videos. Fuck that.

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      It has never been easier to get money in the hands of your favorite performers. But it’s still harder than it should be.

      (Fuck the prudes at Mastercard)

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      As opposed to other industries, where everybody gets their fair share /s

      Expect porn doesn’t require any education.

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      The only ethical form of pornography is furry porn but y’all ain’t ready for that conversation

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      That’s arguably why the current crop of porn is so heavily weighted to the incest fantasy shit.

      The Hapsburgs are driving the market for new material.

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    I’d pay if there was a more discrete way of doing it. Overall, you should pay for the things you want. Or they will go away (well probably not porn). But like local businesses and such.

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    Those interested: Erika Lust is a fun site. It has more ethical porn that you don’t have to wade through weird crap for. Well worth it IMHO

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      Erika Lust

      I get turned off by high production values like that, it’s like jacking off at someone’s workplace.

      I have a hard time keeping it off when it involves the profit motive

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    I feel like this is implying that there’s just “free porn” out there “somewhere” on the internet

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      lol yeah, what’s next? Are benevolent pixies going to distribute it throughout the forest too?

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    I’m really shocked at how many people (apparently) shell out for onlyfans, subscriptions and such.

    I swear, I’m the only sane one, not the only insane one.