I make 3 new friends at every stage of my life, career, and living situation. I also lose those same 3 friends and never speak to them again if any one of those variables changes.
Ok well I followed you with the lost part, but I’m lagging behind on making new ones…
I’ll be your friend. But also I won’t. Call me if you want to hang, and I will make a poor excuse
fair enough! I would make you an excuse as well. Because well I’m bedridden and cannot leave my bed due to disability,
God, down to the exact number…
Same.
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Both are mentally and emotionally taxing
The extroverts feed on us like we’re their cattle
Get this… Many good friends!
Many emotional investments
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I need 4, but that’s because one of my hobbies is being in a 5 piece band. I need the other 4 people to carry my untalented ass and I can’t be in a band with folks I’m not friends with. They like me because due to my obsession with being on time and prepared we get called back for gigs and booking agents (or sound guys, honestly) recommend us as local openers for large acts because we never let them down.
I don’t know how some people actually manage to maintain an actual friendship with more than 3 people, really. Like, where the fuck do you find the time to have 20 close friends?
You know, there are quite a few numbers between 3 and 20. Also you dont have to talk to them every single day. Just meaningful time together. Thats it.
Or at least this worked / works for me.
there are quite a few numbers between 3 and 20
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Large if factual
Just meaningful time together. Thats it.
Yeah, but when?
What do you mean? When the time is right i guess?
If you mean how often, well that depends. Weekly / bi-weekly / monthly it really just how it goes.
Just because we dont meet up we dont just suddenly become strangers.
It was more of a joke comment about your response. OP says he doesn’t have time to spend with (more) friends and your response is to just spend more time with them.
Although I know that’s not quite what you meant, I’m pointing it out in a deadpan way as to highlight the absurdity.
I wish I would see any of my friends monthly. I haven’t seen my best friend in like 4 months or so.
Weekly meetups with 3+ friends, that’s something you can do before you have a wife, kids and a job.
10 years ago, I had a really large social circle, with a group of ~15 people who met 1-4x per week. That was all fine and easy when the only commitment was university and part-time jobbing. But with a full-time job and kids, all that just disappears.
A week only has 168h. With work, sleep and family, there’s not a lot left.
Well i did not think about that. Im in my mid twenties and i only have a job to worry about, so what i said came from this my perspective.
Wait for it ;) It’s gonna get you like anyone else.
Except if you stay childless and then you are the rando with too much time while everyone else you know just disappears into sleep-deprivation-induced zombie mode.
This is what I’ve observed of my partner and other more social people - they’ll reach out to people they like semi-frequently just to check in, maybe arrange a date if it works, or maybe just trade memes.
They probably don’t. I feel like people’s definition of what a friend is can be very loose.
I recognize some people I know as colleagues or acquaintances, but some people may think of them as friends were they in my shoes.
some folk i know just use friend, family, and enemy. colleague, acquaintance, and any other social relationship classification does not exist for them.
Then after 20 years of friendship you learn their real name
That’s true, although I lost contact with those friends so now I’m stuck at 0 :c
I’m a friend :3
me too thanks
Yeah my 3 friends all decided to do meth so I quit highschool and got a job.
Quality > quantity
Unironically yes
Girls make 300 “friends” a year and they hate all of them.
Had this. Stopped because being social with them was a hassle. Finding people you enjoy being with goes a long way.
Don’t ever feel stuck.
How do you get adopted or befriended? I’m too anxious to talk to people and don’t go outside much.
Initiative, feel the vibes for compatibility, try to find out subtly if he/she has good friends that might be interesting and do the same thing for him/her.
People are awkward, they all feel nervous to a certain degree. Be forgiving with yourself and others, but don’t bite more than you can chew.
Really it’s about saying to hell with privacy and not thinking about intruding in other ppl lives: most of the time they actually like it if it was a cool interaction at least!
If you really are nervous, try starting with saying randomly hi to strangers that aren’t in a hurry maybe add a platitude, ask the time by “accidentally” forgetting your phone, bum a cigarette off the cool guy, comment on the weather for old people. Give a compliment! Enjoy living, and don’t mind if you ever get a bad interaction, sometimes you randomly encounter someone at their lowest point or at their worst because of a personal problem, hangryness, or they just talk rudely by habit.
And if you want to meet specific people with specific interest: where do they hang out? Online? Offline? Then you proceed with a friendly hello or smile.
Develop a hobby and interact with others in it
We may be autistic
3? Are you nuts? I have two and see them maybe twice a year in person. Most friends require way too much time and I’m glad my friends are low maintenance and don’t get annoyed when I ghost them for weeks.
Its funny because when I had the time 3 was about the number of folks at any one time I hung out extensively with unless you include rpg groups because that met regularly.
I’m actively working on making a new friend and it’s some work, but I only have 1 really close friend and I’d like more. 3 would be great.
I think for our next date I’ll take him to the graveyard so we can memento mori among the stones.
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That’s because it is.
