• thatkomputerkat@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I hate it so much when I put in headphones so I can power through something like doing the dishes without distraction only to have someone come in and start talking at me. It’s like, there are so many other times when I’m available. Can you not do it when it’s going to make something I don’t particularly enjoy doing take so much longer?!

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    I hate this though because I am not just trying to say hi, I am literally trying to explain to women why they should listen to me, so if they have headphones in they will never hear the arguments in the first place that I have honed in preparation through conversations with my AI Wives.

    It is rude for women to just pretend like they can go about their lives and not center me, I am a man and I am the hero of MY STORY you have to listen to me.

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    As a wise person once said…

    If I have both earbuds in, don’t talk to me.

    If I have one earbud in, don’t talk to me.

    If I have neither in, don’t talk to me.

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    Hes not “so close to getting it” he completely understands the bait hes setting out.

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    Story time! This isn’t here to say that dudes have it worse or just as bad or anything. It just made me think of this.

    I have a good friend who wears wired earbuds often. He gets in a space where he doesn’t want to talk to anyone but he got to be out for one reason or other. I’ve watched person after person come up to him to talk. He rolls his eyes, takes out an earbud, make a huge show of pausing whatever he’s listening to while holding up the “Wait a second” finger. They’ll say whatever they’re trying to open with and he will nod and give the biggest fake smile. Then put his earbud back in. To continue the conversation they have to tap him again and wait for him to do it all over again. Some do, sometimes repeatedly.

    Some people seem to have no concept that others aren’t just waiting for the chance to talk to them.

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    Does he usually walk up to random people on the street who aren’t wearing headphones to try start conversations? 😬

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      Judging by replies to that thread… yes, quite a bit. One woman described how she had to wear ear protection after ear surgery and a guy removed that to talk to her from behind. She was in pain for 2 days afterwards.

      Edit: my personal experience is I had 2 different guys tap on my shoulder and ask me to remove my earbuds by gesturing. Both times they were trying to pick me up. I was just on the way home from work, exhausted and also heavily married.

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        Someone… touched what some stranger is wearing to remove it… and it wasn’t an emergency???

        What the fuck is wrong with people

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          entitlement. women are objects for men to interact with and men are owed their attention when they want it. you have ear protection? well that interferes with me seeking female attention, so off it goes. that’s the mindset we’re dealing with.

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        H…How can someone come even close to think it is a smart move to stand behind someone, invading personal space (at minimum with their arm), grabbing and taking away ones belongings aka the headphones and then expecting that person will be happy to have a nice chat with you which results in a date?

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          Because they think they’re hot shit and have an ego the size of Jupiter. In their mind, they’re the catch and someone would have to be a (insert slur) to turn down such a gracious offer from the world’s most attractive “alpha male”.

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        One woman described how she had to wear ear protection after ear surgery and a guy removed that to talk to her from behind. She was in pain for 2 days afterwards.

        Sounds like she suffered consequences while the man who harmed her suffered no consequences.

        We should be able to easily call police and sue for damages in such situations.

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      Of course not, just hot women who can’t wait to speak to him. Except, y’know, those bitches who blow him off immediately. But those bitches are just getting in the way, the really hot chicks are still waiting just for him.

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      walk up to random people on the street who aren’t wearing headphones to try start conversations?

      It’s strange to me that this would be considered out of bounds. “Pickup artists” aside, this really ought to be more normal.

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        If they aren’t family, or friends, and they aren’t on some talking forum, they might as well not exist. You have no right or reason to interact with them whatsoever.

        Heck, family and friends are optional too…

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          You have no right or reason to interact with them whatsoever.

          I absolutely have the right to talk to anyone I wish. (Assuming we’re not talking about stalking, harassment, etc). As for my reasons, they are my reasons and fuck you if you don’t like them. It’s no wonder nobody has a social life anymore.

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        I wish someone would do that to me in real life. I’d tell them about how a popular coffeeshop in our city is run by a straight up cult and the employees are all members whose wages go into a “shared purse” controlled by the cult.

        Because unlike the guy in the OP, I recognize I’m not the main character. I’m the NPC in the tavern who sends the protagonist on a side quest to take down a cult.

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          But then it turns into a moral lesson when it turns out that cult was actually a cooperative and the person who told you the original rumor a real estate developer that wanted the property

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            So there was an “article” written about the cult, but it was written by the head of the church. The article itself painted the group in an extremely positive light… The comments, on the other hand, were largely from concerned parents, siblings, and friends who had lost loved ones to the cult and no longer had contact. They’ve been active since 2007, this isn’t a meme.

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    All you got to do is wave your hands in front of face and ask if they are using aptx HD, AAC, or some other codec. It’s an easy conversation starter.

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    Took me a second to get that this was a dude missing the point. It seems so obvious I struggled to recognize how someone could be so blatantly unaware

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    The guy is not “so close to getting it.” He just appears that way because we don’t have the same bias he has. He’s actually quite far from getting it and he probably won’t even believe the truth when people explain it to him.

    If he was close to getting it, he’d have gotten it already.

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    Meanwhile, the dirty looks I get when I’m on a bike ride and I startle nearly every woman I pass because she couldn’t hear me say “on your left”

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      and they CAN’T HEAR THE BELL EITHER

      put the phone down, take the ear phones out and be more aware of your surroundings

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        At least turn off noise cancelling, you don’t own the bike path

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          Noise cancelling only really works on constant background noises like an engine. It doesn’t work on bells and just kind of muddies speech, but you can still here the noise.

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          Push bikes have bells that you use to ding people when you’re coming up behind them to let them know you’re coming

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            Would someone needing a push bike even be going fast enough for it to matter? I’d think it’d mostly be toddlers riding them.

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              You can break bones falling off even a stationary bike, yes, it matters. People step out in front of you at walking speed wearing headphones and cause crashes that result in not so minor injuries - especially if you’re transferring your momentum into the pedestrian and their head hits the concrete. That’s without even considering damage to bikes and equipment. Helmets need replacing after a single impact.

              You’re out of your mind if you think bikes are only really ridden by toddlers? And even then, what a great experience for toddlers to have preventable crashes

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                I never said bikes in general are ridden by toddlers, just push bikes. They don’t tend to have the strength to push very hard. Also doubt they’d be ringing a bell for anything other than to hear it themselves anyway

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                  A push bike is a term used interchangeably with non-electric bicycles here, I was not aware they’re something else wherever you live