I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time. Insta-ghost. Idk if that was a fixable personality trait but it wasn’t my responsibility anyway.
I wonder if he’ll have a moment of clarity in a decade or so about how weird that was?
Nah, he’ll blame it all on wokism.
I’m sad to say that I wouldn’t bet on it…
OH this instantly reminded me of some people, of which one person who’s small talk of choice before and after lectures was what a turn on blood letting was, in that class there was also a chick who went to someones house in the forest to see the kitten they just got. without knowing thier name because they just met them (is it meet if you know 0% about someone except they live in the forest and have a cat at the end of “meeting” them)…it is almost surprising they have not been assaulted more.
I mean, girls have boobs, so they must like to talk about them, right? Right???
Some of them do, but best not to assume so!
This reminded me of this date I went on with a girl in college. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but she talked about how she killed her pet hamster for a while when she was younger. I don’t remember how, but it wasn’t an accident IIRC. It’s fair to say there wasn’t a second date. Lol.
I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time.
Based.
Simplest explanation is he wanted you to leave him alone
He talked to me and asked me out.
I smiled at a girl in college once. A day later she infodumped everything she knew about Capgras syndrome on me out of the blue. 11/10 would recommend.
…and then you got replaced by a lizard person and she never spoke to you again?
How did you know? 🤣
Also, when people say meet others at college they don’t mean in the classes, especially not in the lecture halls lol. They mean in the social events…
I was pretty shy when I started college and have always disliked social events. I skipped a few years in highschool so I was young when I started. Combined with working 30+ hours a week to pay for college and my social life was pretty dead.
My junior/senior year I decided to sit next to the most beautiful woman in class on day one. I would then smile, say hello, and leave them alone. Then smile, say goodbye at the end of class and leave.
A few weeks of this and most of them started talking to me a bit before or after class. By mid-terms I was friendly with a few beautiful women and had a couple dates. The last quarter of my senior year, I sat down next to my now wife.
I did get called out by my wife on knowing so many beautiful women when we were dating. She was a bit annoyed but I did sit down next to her after all.
Wholesome ending.
Though, I am a bit confused by
I skipped a few years in highschool
Did your high school have more than 4 years? When I think of “a few,” I think “at least 3,” but skipping 3 out of 4 years doesn’t sound right.
2.5 years. So is it a couple or a few? I started college when I turned 16.
I ended up being a burned out after my 2nd year in college and I turned 18. I had also amassed some savings by working so much. So I bought a ticket to Europe and bummed around for a couple years. When I started back up I was the same age as everyone else.
My friend group was always on the nerdier side in high school. One thing I’m really glad we did come senior year was we’d play poker, and the loser, if single, would be have to go and ask a random gal out on a date (with the rest of the group trying-yet-failing to act casual hanging out nearby to make sure it happened lol)
It’s liberating to know that, as long as you’re not being a creep, you can just talk to someone you think is cute and ask them out. It was especially nice to know back in the high school days lol.
Generally, yes, but if you’re a pleasant person to be around you can easily get things going from lectures as well. You just need to strike up a conversation like a normal person and be friendly. The problem most of these people have is they treat women like something to be won, when instead they’re just people.
I met the love of my life at a literal exam.
I think the trick to it is that you shouldn’t force any situations like this to have any sort of outcome, just keep yourself open to new people. Like set up situations where you can meet new people, and have your attitude be “I’d like to get to know you, so we can either be friends, more than friends or never meet again if that’s how it shakes out”, and just keeping it low stakes. And then just try to get into those situations as much as you can.
Agreed, I made lifelong friends in my college anime club.
Don’t they? The culture might be different in different schools or different generations, but I’ve made quite a few friends just by chatting with people in the lecture halls before class.
It’s funny how this post is just a greentext story about a guy trying to talk to a girl in class. But some of the comments are negative or have such divisive vote ratios: assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative? The interaction from the greentext seems like a somewhat “standard” thing to happen in one’s life
It does seem to be a very 21st century thing to treat an unwanted romantic conversational overture as a form of assault.
I suspect it’s even more so with terminally online people who are too socially awkward to be able to just brush someone off and move on, without being haunted by it for the next four decades.
I get that sometimes there are men who go too far and make a situation untenable, and absolutely fuck those guys, but overall I think we’re going in the wrong direction in society where people just don’t talk to each other any more.
It doesn’t even have to be romantic.
Try calling anyone under 30 on the phone. They also think you are assaulting and traumatizing them. Or just ask someone a direct question to their face, however innocuous…
Everyone is terminally online now. And asking them to give you their direct one on one attention is considered demanding and rude. Everything has to be a text or a chat. Half the time when you interact with people IRL, they are on their phones. I see so many couples at bars now who are just… sitting there together on their phones.
I have a dog. She loves people and likes asking strangers for pets. People over 40/50 are happy to chat me up about my dog, ask me what her name is, make a comment about how cute she is. People under that age look like I am attacking them if I try to socialize with them about me dog. They just want to pet her and run away asap. they don’t ask me what breed she is, what her name is, or anything. They avoid all eye contact or conversation with me. It’s insane. Male or female.
People generally only want to socialize with people they already know and they primary want to do it via group chat or discord. Everyone and everything else is ‘scary’ or gives them ‘anxiety’.
Hell I told a person in line at the book store a few months ago she and it was really good and I’d read it I hope she enjoys it. She looked at me with daggers in her eyes, didn’t smile, said nothing. She was clearly around 30 too. It’s insane. 5-10 years ago that person would have been like ‘oh cool thanks! yeah I’m excited’. I remember being able to talk to people in book stores… about books. Nowadays… nope you are assaulting/attacking someone if you talk to them about books in a bookstore. Unless it’s an employee.
assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
I gotta say, I never had any of these problems in college. And I won’t even pretend I had great hygiene or particularly good social skills. The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Let’s set aside the fact that OP is probably lying. When one guy gets ostracized by an entire classroom of other students, it’s safe to assume one of two things:
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The classroom is full of bigots who hate This One Guy for a very particular cultural reason (maybe you made a mistake going to South Confederacy Technical College as a black guy looking to meet white chicks)
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The guy is so universally obnoxious that he can’t get the time of day from the second biggest loser in the room
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative?
If it was posted on anything but 4chan, maybe. But anyone who knows the reputation of the average 4chan user can come up with a host of reasons why people are avoiding him like the plague.
The post says that people weren’t avoiding him specifically, but no one was talking to one another at all.
The post implies the 30% of men in the class weren’t giving him the time of day, either.
So, maybe it was an entire room full of NPCs. Maybe they were all psychic and he was just the odd guy out. Maybe it’s a Greentext and you shouldn’t take it at face value. Who can say? But as anecdotes go, the “everyone acted like an emotionally sterile zombie hobbling from class to class in a daze” sounds… out of line with my experience in virtually any social setting. Nevermind one with dozens of teenagers all packed in together.
Like, I’ve got a few friends who teach high school. And the “I’ve got these kids who won’t stfu during class” stories are a regular part of the “how was your day?” conversation. What magic is happening between Senior HS and Freshman College that turns everyone’s most pernicious socializing instincts off in this one guy’s classroom?
Now, if I’m someone’s parent and I’m talking to my kid after school… and I ask how their day was? Did you make any new friends? What’s your homework? Can you name any of your teachers? Do you remember what grade you’re in? And they just give me nothing because they’re burned out? That’s extremely normal.
I graduated in 2024. I have been in the exact classroom described by the greentext countless times. It wasn’t every single class but it was many of them. All those NPCs/zombies you describe are people in the same boat as greentext. Everyone is wondering when someone else will step up to dip their toe in the water. The moment is fleeting though because soon all the phones are out and people are texting their friends, oblivious to the horror around them.
The moment is fleeting though because soon all the phones are out and people are texting their friends
Okay, so they’re not just quietly ignoring each other. They’re fixated on their friend groups on the phone.
Again, seems like the obvious opener is “study group”. And that group will inevitably get it’s own group chat.
The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Brother, ain’t this the truth.
I didn’t make any friends with my same-age classmates just by casually talking.
Then I went to night classes with full grown adults and i was invited to dinners and birthday parties immediately.
Honestly, I have seen many classrooms in which no one was talking to anyone. There would be a break in the lecture, and the lecture hall would be absolutely silent for 10-15 minutes until the lecture resumed. Other classes were a bit more chattery, or even way more. As a teacher now, it seems anecdotally that the problem is getting worse, but that’s what every teacher always said (“these younger generations!! Mumble mumble”)
Thank you for a civil and thoughtful response :)
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as a man who went to university, and had women in my class, never had a negative reaction like that when trying to talk to girls about whatever is relevant.
never tried to pick up girls in class either.
Lemmy is filled with incels who are in denial. It’s kind of like how the most rabid homophobes are closted gays.
Whoa there frend-o, that’s a yikes from me. I may be a neurodiverse no-pussy guy from Lemmy, but I played Magic The Gathering at the comic con once and while I was explaining the cards to this girl, our hands accidentally touched and she laughed.
Lmao
Lemcels, as they (we) are known for
Join a club. There’s fliers everywhere.
Yeah clubs/societies are the places to meet people. No one wants so socialise in class.
Exactly. I just want to get in, get out, and not be late to the next one. I’m paying to listen to the idiot in the front, I’m going to get my money’s worth.
Helps if you don’t start the conversation with " Hello m’lady."
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https://www.reddit.com/r/copypasta/comments/hb4nmh/jaw_drops_to_floor_eyes_pop_out_of_sockets/
what is THY interest m’lady.
Wow, college has turned rough, to many anxieties, I had fun in college, met new ppl, met my college gf of 3 years no fraternity needed not even socialmedia…and I’m just 44, already someone is calling anon a creep without any prior knowledge of the person or any context, it’s that easy now to to judge people and call anyone a creep …and they are wondering why are ppl lonely, single and anxious
A boomer told me that he observes younger generations as being stand off-ish. I don’t disagree. I suppose having grown up with “stranger danger” message being drilled into us made us that way. I don’t want to start a generation fight and blame boomers, but who are the parents of millenials who taught us the message that made us hypervigilant? The stranger danger message has merit, but if older generations are complaining why we behave that way, you reap what you sow as the saying goes.
Another consideration is that if Anon is Gen Z, it is very likely that his peers grew up with constant attention to online and digital presence, which makes them socially awkward. It didn’t help either that much of Gen Z spent two years cooped up in their own homes during the pandemic. It does not take a genius to figure out what those two phenomena does to an entire generation.
You may be interested in reading https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bowling_Alone
There’s a lot to blame - dual income households, suburbanization, religion declining in popularity (religious communities are communities)
Decline in local communities sounds like a natural result of mass communication and globalization, imo
Eh there are a lot of factors, including how your city is designed. Car centric cities usually have less sense of community than cities with good transit or walkability. This is because nobody chats with the person next to them in traffic but some people will chat on the street or on the train. But on the flip side, car centric small towns can have a lot of community, mostly because the place is so small everyone kinda knows everyone and most people rely on the same businesses.
Well, posting green-texts is a fair indicator IMO (I mean it’s fake but let’s pretend).
Would this attract someone just like the anime stickers?
Eww, no, it’s not Arch
You need to wear the Fedora, not run it.
Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women
Especially if he doesn’t bathe
Why do you assume is a women studies course?
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class is 70% women
The makeup of universities these days isn’t that far off from that in general.
Yeah, I didn’t think anything of that because there are more women than men in college today.
so anything bio
Because the post was written by someone who clearly feels that these women owe him their attention.
I assumed it’s a women’s studies class because the kind of male who feels entitled to attention like this would typically think something along the lines of “women’s studies would have the highest ratio of women to men of any other class” and so join said class assuming it would be a good place to get a date.
The tone of the post implies that he is upset after realizing the course would not double as his own personal harem of desperate women fighting each other for his affection.
The reactions of the women he mentioned is why I assumed he probably doesn’t bathe. I’m guessing he showed up in stained sweatpants or something similar as well.
Any other questions?
Live in the dorms and go to parties. The first week before classes start is magical for making friends.
Ah yes, shroom week.
Anon is ugly, stinks, or has a terrible personality; or a mix/combination of those.
Idk, I had a similar experience in my college classes. Male and female students - people were pretty cliquish and didn’t seem interested in meeting anyone. I was rarely able to establish even light relationships via my classes, and these never progressed to deeper relationships.
And this doesn’t seem like an “oh, that’s just you” problem, since I had no problem meeting people at school events, in clubs, randomly on the quad, in the bars near campus, etc. Classes just, in general, seemed to put people in an asocial mood. Which honestly makes sense to me - if you spend an hour concentrating on a lecture and then have somewhere to be afterwards, you aren’t very primed for the openmindedness and creativity necessary to interact with a stranger.
I had the same thought reading this. If Anon wants to socialize he should go to social events.
He had one dread, and fungus. Worked on people’s toilets with plungers.
I’ve seen a weird amount of Del references on Lemmy and I’m here for it.
it’s important to practice good hygiene
He’s obnoxious enough to try to pick up women in class. That’s enough, really.
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It’s literally the FIRST rule.
How often do you shower?
This isn’t just an Anon problem anymore. My partner is a supervisor and he keeps having to have conversations with the 25 and younger crowd about showering, wearing clean clothes, and either wearing deodorant or coming up with other solutions for working in an environment with other people present. Men and women, 18-25.
I supervise soil remediation, which occasionally involves working in a liquid-proof coverall, with a hood, thick rubber gloves and a full face mask. I’ve had to literally pour a stream of sweat out of my boots. And I’m just standing there watching and writing, not actually doing physical labour.
And I still have to remind people to shower when changing. Even if you don’t care about killing yourself, I mean, come on.
It’s a trend I’m seeing too. I blame it on the cost of living - people renting with bad bathroom situations or people not able to consistently pay the cost of hot water
Anon does online degree is more accurate 🤷♂️
